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On NPR the other day, there was an author, Marisa Franco, saying that men have a difficult time finding friends because they're so terrified that they may be suspected of being gay. Pretty sad.
You're not uncool. Making friends as an adult is just hard
Franco says men often have more trouble making friends than women because of the way society perceives them. Men are also more likely to rely on their romantic partners for a social network.
“There's this phenomenon called homohysteria, which is the fear of being perceived as gay that I think really, really is destructive for men's friendships,” she says. https://www.wbur.org/hereandnow/2021...friends-adults
I do not see this in my own social circles. The men I know have multiple male friends and they enjoy golfing, watching sports, grabbing a beer, taking motorcycle trips, hunting trips, and other male-bonding activities.
Anyway, why would this "theory" pertain to just men and not women? Women don't avoid forming friendships with women for this reason, right?
This article is just another example of how the media is biased with their reporting.
Lol, this is kinda funny because it certainly doesn't pertain to anybody I know, including myself.
Not making friends with other men because of fear of being perceived as gay? Though I kinda get some men can get leery if I get "too friendly" (not in a weird way), maybe that's what she is talking about?
Now if she said that men tends not to be as "huggy" or affectionate towards other guys because they can be perceived as gay, then I would agree. I think most heterosexual guys are somewhat homophobic (by degrees).
On NPR the other day, there was an author, Marisa Franco, saying that men have a difficult time finding friends because they're so terrified that they may be suspected of being gay. Pretty sad.
You're not uncool. Making friends as an adult is just hard
Franco says men often have more trouble making friends than women because of the way society perceives them. Men are also more likely to rely on their romantic partners for a social network.
“There's this phenomenon called homohysteria, which is the fear of being perceived as gay that I think really, really is destructive for men's friendships,” she says. https://www.wbur.org/hereandnow/2021...friends-adults
On one hand, man avoid doing lots of perfectly normal things in order to avoid being marked as gay...
For instance, they don't wear skirts or dresses, they avoid pink color, they avoid speedo swimming briefs and opt for trunks, they avoid wrestling (because I don't want to hug another guy), etc...
On another hand, avoiding just talking or acquaintance to the people just because someone would think you're a gay??? That's absurd. On another hand, I knew 2 family guys (whose wives went to extended vacation to Ukraine) who hanged out together. And they were saying they're gays to everyone who questioned their hanging out. (they we so totally not, they just were above and beyond "what people say")
Funny thing about this is when I shop or go to dinner with male friends it's always a woman that questions if we're gay...never other men!
I actually have one friend who IS homophobic and yet even he goes to dinner or shopping with me...and movies.
I have NEVER ever heard of this until now!
...leave it to a woman to tell us men how we think or feel!
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