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Men always get a bad rap for being homophobic, but I've known plenty of women who are just as bad. I've talked to female coworkers who were perfectly accepting of gay men, but found lesbians threatening and felt uncomfortable around them. Two women at my current job flat-out denied male bisexuality exists -- they insisted that bi guys are just in denial about being gay. Then there's the constant policing of their male coworkers' behavior -- the minute he says or does the slightest thing that could be perceived as feminine, right away the "omg is he gay??" rumors start flying around.
Men always get a bad rap for being homophobic, but I've known plenty of women who are just as bad. I've talked to female coworkers who were perfectly accepting of gay men, but found lesbians threatening and felt uncomfortable around them. Two women at my current job flat-out denied male bisexuality exists -- they insisted that bi guys are just in denial about being gay. Then there's the constant policing of their male coworkers' behavior -- the minute he says or does the slightest thing that could be perceived as feminine, right away the "omg is he gay??" rumors start flying around.
Interesting to hear that. You are quite correct in that men being homophobic is pretty much what society talks about, but almost never hear about women who are.
Lesbophobic / lesbophobia is a real thing and in fact my sister has sometimes shown a degree of that to me. She is quite inclusive and not derisive about gay / lesbian people, but a few times she expressed discomfort about seeing them kissing or "making out" in public.
TBF some people don't like seeing ANYBODY making out in public, so maybe that is what she meant?
Well, I dunno….I dated a guy once who stated he would never go to a movie with another guy because he might be perceived as gay.
In a similar vein, I once knew a NJ guy who would go to Pennsylvania every year on the day of the Gay Pride Parade in NYC. Because he lived fairly close to Manhattan, he--bizarrely--believed that others might think that he went to that parade unless he headed west to PA and loudly announced to all of his friends that he would be in Pennsy for the day. Very weird, but...
Well, I dunno….I dated a guy once who stated he would never go to a movie with another guy because he might be perceived as gay.
I always wonder about people who are that obsessed with proving they aren't gay. I don't necessarily subscribe to the pop psychology theory that says they're repressing latent homosexual feelings, but how insecure do you have to be to GAF what random people think about you doing random things? Drinking with your bros isn't gay, but going to see a movie is?
What a ridiculous assertion. Really stupid. Where do these people come from?
I, at 69, y/o have quite a few male friends that I go out with individually and in groups. Usually involves food and drink. Sometimes car shows. Maybe a shooting range. Mainly bars and restaurants.
We moved to our present state, TN, without knowing anybody.
Admittedly, we NEVER talk about relationships. No interest in that.
ETA: How many times will "homo-hysteria" be bandied about, here, there and everywhere before that gets overused and burnt out?
Last edited by doc1; 08-01-2022 at 10:26 AM..
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