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My birthday is coming up on Saturday, and I am going out to a local bar for some drinks with 3 friends. One of the people who is coming is a longtime friend, who also lives a few houses down the street from me, and this person doesn't drink at all. Not even the occasional beer or glass of wine. He is still perfectly fine with coming and wants to, and I figured he would have no problem picking me up, since he lives right down the street, and being my designated driver so I could have a few drinks. I am a responsible drinker also and was only planning on having 2 or 3 drinks. I texted him to see if he could hitch a ride with me there and back, expecting it to be no problem, and he responded with, "No, sorry, I won't be able to pick you up. I don't know how many drinks you plan on having and I dont want you getting sick in my car." I responded with, "Don't worry, I could understand why you'd be hesitant, but I'm only planning on having 2 or 3 drinks, which I've had plenty of times at parties and never gotten sick or even drunk with that amount. Now that you know that, will you pick me up? I'd really appreciate it and would give you gas money also" And he responded with, "No, sorry. Find your own way there."
I don't even know what to think here. I told this guy I'm planning on being responsible, we've been friends for years, and he lives right down the street from me so he can't use the excuse that it's out of the way. All I wanted him to do was give me a ride so I could enjoy a few drinks on my birthday. And he was so rude about it also. I'm not even sure if I want him to come anymore, given how rude he is being, but there are only 4 of us going in total, and he is just as good of friends with them as I am. I actually texted one of the people going with screenshots of his texts, and they responded with, "Wow, that is so rude of him. I'm going to talk to him and try to fix this, and if he won't, then we'll figure it out." I appreciate that very much, but if they still can't convince my "friend" to drive me, I'm going to have to Uber or drive myself and have maybe one beer or so. I feel that he should pay for it if I Uber if he's going to be this ridiculous. He's excited about Saturday otherwise, but part of what bothers me is how rude he was about the whole thing. He doesn't trust that I'm not going to be sick, and I don't even want to get plastered like that. I simply wanted to have a good time. My other friend will be speaking to him tomorrow to try and straighten him out because she agrees that he's being rude, but I am thinking of approaching it myself and telling him I don't want him there or that he has to at least pay for an Uber.
I think it's a little weird that he isn't willing to do this, but not as weird as the assumption that he owes you an Uber. Seriously?
OMG, just take the Uber! People have weird hangups. There is nothing to be gained from pressuring a friend into something they don't want to do. YES, he's being weird. But it's not your job to correct his behavior. You are friends. Friends accept each other's quirks. Just accept that he's not comfortable and find another way to get to and fro that weekend.
Nope. He's being sensible. Nobody wants a drunk in their car. I don't care if you ARE "only planning to have 2 or 3 drinks". I don't care if you ACTUALLY DO only have 2 or 3 drinks.
Get an uber. And don't throw up in that car, either. You are the one being unreasonable. Your neighbor does NOT owe you a free ride home after you've been out drinking. You should be grateful for the ride out there.
AND NO, let me reiterate and emphasize, HE IS NOT BEING UNREASONABLE IN ANY WAY SHAPE OR FORM. I cannot believe the number of entitled fools who think ANYONE owes ANYONE ELSE a free ride home from a bar, as long as the party of the first part didn't forcibly take the party of the second part their against their will and dump them there, in a place where there are no cabs or ubers. Heck, under THOSE circumstance, a ride home from that person is the LAST thing I would want.
I am old enough and seen enough drama and known enough quirky people that I wouldn't bother being MAD about it, I'd try to laugh it off. I am SURE there is some story that makes it perfectly justifiable to him. He'll probably tell it. I wouldn't argue in any real or heated kind of way.... I'd just say he's made the list of people you won't bother to slow down to pick up in the Zombie Apocalypse.
I'm not trying to list cons. He's a great person who I genuinely enjoy hanging out with, but he is emotionally immature, which I know and other people know also. Doesn't mean we don't want to be his friend. I also wasn't intending for our other friend to talk to him and fix the situation. I simply sent her a screenshot saying, "Can you believe this?" and then she suddenly said she was going to talk to him for me. I just was venting. I'm not going to stop her from talking to him at this point, but I'm not going to uninvite him and I'm ok with paying for Uber both ways. His attitude about it was just terrible though.
OP, i wouldn't want to be friends with someone like you. wow! lol
he has to pay for your uber? are you fkn kidding me?
maybe if you were a sensible drinker, he wouldn't have reservations.....maybe you should stop being cheap and just take an Uber?
BFD- he's still being a jerk. Not much of a friend. He could take him there, and the OP could get a ride home from someone else.
That's not what the OP has requested, and is apparently expecting.
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