Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
I understand that people are often busy, lost in their own thoughts, maybe introverted but, wonder if I am missing something obvious. I have attended the same gym regularly for a few years now. I see a lot of the same people, week in week out so, to me it seems natural to say hello and occasionally initiate some small talk. Most folks respond when approached but many, will never acknowledge me first if they see me a week later? It is as if they have never seen me before. When I say hello, they are friendly enough but if I were to wait for them to acknowledge me, it will not happen. I see a lot of folks, month after month, come in, do their routine and never say so much as hello to another person, even though they see these same folks month after month. I’m not someone who wants to spend my time at the gym socializing. I get that people want to get through their routines an get out but, it seems strange to me that so many people seem to intentionally avoid any social interaction at all. Just curious what that is about.
I understand that people are often busy, lost in their own thoughts, maybe introverted but, wonder if I am missing something obvious. I have attended the same gym regularly for a few years now. I see a lot of the same people, week in week out so, to me it seems natural to say hello and occasionally initiate some small talk. Most folks respond when approached but many, will never acknowledge me first if they see me a week later? It is as if they have never seen me before. When I say hello, they are friendly enough but if I were to wait for them to acknowledge me, it will not happen. I see a lot of folks, month after month, come in, do their routine and never say so much as hello to another person, even though they see these same folks month after month. I’m not someone who wants to spend my time at the gym socializing. I get that people want to get through their routines an get out but, it seems strange to me that so many people seem to intentionally avoid any social interaction at all. Just curious what that is about.
The gym is tricky because some people really don't want to chit chat when working out and might be worried you're gonna start gabbing the whole time .
My ex used to go to the gym at 5 am every day, and they definitely had formed a little community of regulars. They all know about each other's families, health issues, weekend plans etc. and get concerned when someone doesn't show up.
But people here are generally friendly.
Maybe it's a regional thing.
It doesn't sound like you're being pushy. Are you just trying to do a little head nod/"good morning" kind of greeting? I say keep being friendly. Don't let their reticence discourage you.
could be any number of reasons...the other person doesnt want to socialize , lacks social skills, feels that they may be interrupting someone elses routine. once in a while you'll meet a talkative one
I’m not someone who wants to spend my time at the gym socializing. I get that people want to get through their routines an get out but, it seems strange to me that so many people seem to intentionally avoid any social interaction at all. Just curious what that is about.
Humans suck and the vast majority have nefarious purposes if they are talking to you at all.
I think it is odd that people want to try to initiate conversation with complete strangers. To me that seems suspicious. You go to the gym to work out not to socialize.
Humans suck and the vast majority have nefarious purposes if they are talking to you at all.
I think it is odd that people want to try to initiate conversation with complete strangers. To me that seems suspicious. You go to the gym to work out not to socialize.
I hate people who want to change the conversation that was established. They do it because they don't know anything about the subject and want to talk about what they know. It is so rude.
I hate people who want to change the conversation that was established. They do it because they don't know anything about the subject and want to talk about what they know. It is so rude.
Err, that was the subject -- why don't people want to talk at the gym? Reading comprehension. Its a thing.
I understand that people are often busy, lost in their own thoughts, maybe introverted but, wonder if I am missing something obvious. I have attended the same gym regularly for a few years now. I see a lot of the same people, week in week out so, to me it seems natural to say hello and occasionally initiate some small talk. Most folks respond when approached but many, will never acknowledge me first if they see me a week later? It is as if they have never seen me before. When I say hello, they are friendly enough but if I were to wait for them to acknowledge me, it will not happen. I see a lot of folks, month after month, come in, do their routine and never say so much as hello to another person, even though they see these same folks month after month. I’m not someone who wants to spend my time at the gym socializing. I get that people want to get through their routines an get out but, it seems strange to me that so many people seem to intentionally avoid any social interaction at all. Just curious what that is about.
I'm a pretty sociable guy. But there's a time and a place to start a conversation. And the gym is typically not one of those places.
No one goes to the gym for chit chat, they are hoping that if they pretend to not see you, you won't stop and start a conversation.
Smile, nod, say hi, and don't stop to chat. You can say hi with their name if you know their name. Other than that, leave people alone and keep moving.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
.
