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I think it also depends on the time of day you are at the gym. Early in the morning people are still half asleep, and most of us are focused on getting in and out so we can get to work on time. But late-morning and early afternoon seem to be more of a social time because people generally aren't in much of a hurry to get to where they need to be next.
I think it also depends on the time of day you are at the gym. Early in the morning people are still half asleep, and most of us are focused on getting in and out so we can get to work on time. But late-morning and early afternoon seem to be more of a social time because people generally aren't in much of a hurry to get to where they need to be next.
Good point. The same can be true of the after-work crowd, depending.
I'm surprised I haven't seen anyone go on a technology bashing tirade yet.
"Technology has made people anti-social! It's ruining everyone dammit!"
In reality, not everyone wants to be bothered with strangers. Notice the signs and move on.
The OP has a good point, though. He's saying people are avoiding eye contact altogether, and not even giving long-time fellow gym-goers a nod. It's not about "being bothered by" the gym members you see every time you're there, for months. It's just about simply acknowledging another fellow human being, who you see around frequently.
The OP has a good point, though. He's saying people are avoiding eye contact altogether, and not even giving long-time fellow gym-goers a nod. It's not about "being bothered by" the gym members you see every time you're there, for months. It's just about simply acknowledging another fellow human being, who you see around frequently.
I don't acknowledge strangers, most of the people around here only interact with people they already know. I do the same.
I don't acknowledge strangers, most of the people around here only interact with people they already know. I do the same.
I go to the gym to workout, not make friends.
Again, the OP made it clear he's not looking to make friends. He's merely puzzled by the eye-contact avoidance, i.e. the lack of what he considers to be "normal" behavior. I guess a lot of people are uncomfortable w/basic eye contact...? A simple neighborly nod. It's not a big deal. Oh well. Maybe he lives in Seattle; that would explain it, lol. Oops--no, he's in TX. Go figure. Maybe the men at his gym think that acknowledging another male would be a "gay" gesture?
And if you are a woman just making eye contact can put you in a "me too" situation. I am by no means good looking but a few years back with my ear phones in.. I had this guy start talking to me on the treadmill. I had to take the buds out. He randomly started asking me if there were good restaurants in the area. I politely told him a few and put the buds back in...
But that wasn't enough. He just kept talking. I motioned like I couldn't hear him and he touched my arm. He TOUCHED my arm. I stopped the treadmill and gave him the look and left. He acted like there was something wrong with me. Like he had some right to maintain the conversation and I had some obligation to talk to him because he chose to talk to me.
I find people like this seem to believe that if they talk to me I have some obligation to talk to them back. I do not.
Seriously? that's just damn insanity.
What an insult to women who were in REAL harassment situations.
OP, your post gives off the needy/desperate for validation vibes. Just like I do. Start ignoring them back and then some of them might try to approach you. Some of us give this desperate for making friends aura that most people dislike. You come as too intense I guess. I know that I have persiods where I look at strangers intensely but it tires me as they rarely give back.
there is really a time and place for everything. there are exceptions for this and the OP needs to read the signs.
yes there are gay and straight people out there, dosnt mean they are on to you
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