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From a bureaucratic perspective perspective so long as the teacher does not have ANY managerial authority over the student there is no problem. From a social perspective it is no body's business except for the people involved. This discussion is just another example of the rampant (I hope that is not too sugestive) pruditry on this board.
When I was a senior in HS many decades ago at the height of late 50's pruditry I did not restrict my "dating" to high school girls. Given the memories I am darn glad I did not follow all the restrictions my parents and other well meaning adults were trying to put me under.
GregW, I can understand why a high school senior wouldn't restrict their dating options, but I think that what people are saying here is that, like it or not, society IS going to think there's something inappropriate about an adult dating a student who hasn't yet graduated high school. The teacher here is the older one, and is the one people are going to be judging; not the high school student. Maybe in an ideal world it's only up to the two people involved, but the reality is that a teacher dating a high school student is a good way to destroy a fledgling career. Why risk it? Especially when you can just wait a few months until the student is out of school and the level of stigma goes down? If it's such a great love it can last a short time, and if it's not, then is it really worth the risk? I don't think it's prudish to point out the obvious, which is that most people will look at this situation and consider the teacher to be, at the very least, lacking good judgement and common sense.
If the teacher follows through with the relationship and it is discovered, he/she will lose their job. There is not a time when it is ok to date a student, whether you are their teacher or not. Teachers have an ethics code to follow. If you can't follow it, don't teach.
Wait until after the HS student has graduated, if you want to spare the two of you a lot of grief.
One of the young new, HS teachers, and one of the HS SRs were very much attracted to one another -- he was not a student of hers. They did not date until after the fellow had graduated from HS, and then it seems, no one really cared or objected. They were quite a topic of discussion, however, in that awful teachers' lounge!
They went on to date for a number of years, and had a close, good relationship. You figure there isn't that much age difference -- right out of college put her at about 22, and he was 18, and one of the best students in the HS. Very mature for his age, and quite a nice, young gentleman at 18.
One of our young assistant principals dated one of the cute young student teachers who was assigned to the HS during her practicum semester, and even that was a bit frowned upon.
This discussion is just another example of the rampant (I hope that is not too sugestive) pruditry on this board.
Not too suggestive, Greg, but since you're arguing your own word choice, I feel obliged to point out "pruditry" isn't a word.
And if the belief that social inequality is an ill-chosen foundation for romantic liaisons equals prudery, than I'll happily consider myself a prude-- though more correctly sejant rather than rampant.
First, let me state that I agree the teacher/student dating situation is somewhat unprofessional and could be a dangerous career move should the relationship go sour.
That being said, I know two male high school teachers who not only dated their students, but married them. One couple married in June after the female's May graduation. They had a big wedding, country club reception, and a huge newspaper announcement. Everyone was well aware they were dating, even the administrators, director of schools and school board. The other teacher was actually the girls basketball coach and he married one of his players less than six months after her graduation. This relationship had been much more discrete and their wedding was low key. Both couples managed to stay married close to ten years and in both cases it was the female who left.
Theres nothing wrong with dating. As long as you're not having sex.. its not like its against the law. And since she or he is a senior about to graduate then it shouldnt be a problem.. i mean they are 18. People will say its bad because the words "High school student" are in it and it makes it seem like they are a child.. but at that point seniors aren't children, they are adults who can make their own decisions and do what they want to do like any other adult.
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