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but then again if this teacher was not a teacher lets say this person was a fireman it would all be good right no problem.
why does being a teacher give new rules and laws that dont even exist.
lets see 22 year old teacher dating 18 year old high schooler = bad idea
22 year old fireman/self-employed worker dating 18 year old high schooler = no problem??
why not just ban all type profession sort like relationships like
doctor prohibited from dating patients, or lawyer thier clients, how about even banning coaches from any sport date any athelete...
why should teacher be the only ones put under the microscope
why not just make all students legally be minors??? doesnt the law say 17 is the age of consent and considered to be an adult
I do think it is inappropriate for doctors to date patients, lawyers to date clients and coaches to date their own athletes. In the case of doctors and lawyers, I believe such dating is against their code of ethics. There are coaches who do, e.g. Lindsey Vonn married her coach and I have heard of a handful of other examples.
Why would a college graduate want to date someone who hasn't even gradated from high school? She'll probably go off to college and get involved with guys closer to her own age.
17 may be the age of consent for a woman to have sex w/o it being considered "statutory rape" in your state. A person may not legally vote until age 18, and in most states, that is considered the age of majority.
BTW, what do her parents think? If it were my daughter, and I have two in their early 20s now, I'd be appalled.
Last edited by Katarina Witt; 03-07-2010 at 09:25 PM..
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I think many people would be uncomfortable with a college graduate of any profession dating a high school student still in school. I don't think there's any professional bias here. That 4+ years makes a big difference when one of the two is still in high school. Graduation from high school is a big milestone, a transition from one life stage into the next, and I think that's a more important marker than just age alone (if you're talking from an ethical, not legal, standpoint). Like it or not, most of society is going to see someone, teacher or not, of 22 years or older dating a high school senior as having either ulterior motives or of being a loser (i.e. stuck in the past, immature, etc.). Since most people don't want people of either cateogry teaching their kids, I suppose it could have more serious professional ramifications for a teacher than it would for someone in some jobs.
An educator dating a student is generally a huge breach of professional ethics, whether or not that student is one of his/her students (similar to how most seats of higher learning prohibit relationships between professors and students, even though the students are primarily of age, and even if the student does not have that professor for any classes).
I would imagine that it is prohibited in most situations, anyway. I would also consider it a fantastic way to shoot your career in the foot.
5 or 10 year difference that in of itself is confusing. Is it 5 or 10 year difference?
Are you having a relationship?
You will stain your record and people must be talking already.
He's not out of school yet.
Have you met his mother?
This post seems to have evolved into an assumption that the teacher is a woman, and the student is a man. However, the OP's name is drumingman. Despite the fact that the female teacher/male student relationships get a lot of press, the more common situation is male teacher/female student, from what I have read. That seems to be the case in the OP's query.
Seems to me the question would boil down to whether the school system had a policy prohibiting a teacher from dating ANY student in the system. If so, then the teacher should not do it. If not, then I'd say go ahead.
Certainly universities do not prohibit professors/instructors/TA's from dating students... happens quite often, actually. However, profs who date students in their classes are asking for trouble (too easy for a harassment or biased treatment claim to be made). Some -- but not most -- universities prohibit dating a student enrolled in your course, stipulating that dating of students should only occur if a prof has no grading authority over the student (i.e. after the semester is over or date a student who is not enrolled in your course).
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