Is ATL a good city for single black professional women? (Atlanta: transplants, credit score)

[Atlanta_BD]

The thing I find interesting is that when men have a type, they go for it and get it, while women are not allowed to have a type. When women have a type we are accused of being too picky. When a man wants a blonde, he goes out and gets a blonde or whatever it is he wants.

[Mia_Mia23456]

Originally Posted by Atlanta_BD

The thing I find interesting is that when men have a type, they go for it and get it, while women are not allowed to have a type. When women have a type we are accused of being too picky. When a man wants a blonde, he goes out and gets a blonde or whatever it is he wants.

You are right. I think it's because men are less likely to be influenced by others, they simply do as they wish and go after whatever they want.

[Stickytoffee]

Originally Posted by Rozi30213

Dating sucks in Atlanta for a black woman!! I don't even want to date a black man!! All the black men I have encountered want me to bring something to table and do things for them. What does that even mean??? I'm in my early 30's, has a job, my own car, a condo and I have been to college. What else do I need? I'm overweight but all of my overweight friends have found mates. I simply do not get it......

Is this what men are attracted to? How would a woman having a job, a car, a condo and a degree attract a romantic partner? These things are good and they mean you can take care of yourself but that's all they mean. Most of the men you would like have these same things. What feminine attributes do you "bring to the table"?

[Atlanta_BD]

Originally Posted by Stickytoffee

Is this what men are attracted to? How would a woman having a job, a car, a condo and a degree attract a romantic partner? These things are good and they mean you can take care of yourself but that's all they mean. Most of the men you would like have these same things. What feminine attributes do you "bring to the table"?

I have to agree with this. Women these days who have the degree, the good job, home, car, etc., they feel this makes a good catch. But often what women don't realize is that while it shows you are a responsible adult to have these things, bragging about accomplishments and trappings is actually a masculine thing to do. Men want to date women, not women who act like men.

Most men care about looks and femininity first. Everything else is a bonus. Men also have to feel chemistry with a woman coupled also with being in the settling down phase in their lives.

[EdwardA]

Originally Posted by Mia_Mia23456

You are right. I think it's because men are less likely to be influenced by others, they simply do as they wish and go after whatever they want.

That and Mother Time weighs down more heavier on women.

[EdwardA]

Originally Posted by Atlanta_BD

I have to agree with this. Women these days who have the degree, the good job, home, car, etc., they feel this makes a good catch. But often what women don't realize is that while it shows you are a responsible adult to have these things, bragging about accomplishments and trappings is actually a masculine thing to do.

Most men care about looks and femininity first. Everything else is a bonus.

Kaboom. Women but be wise to take note of this statement.

[Atlanta_BD]

Originally Posted by EdwardA

That and Mother Time weighs down more heavier on women.

That's not true at all. While visiting my hometown last week, I saw many guys that I grew up with. They are all overweight or obese and old-looking. My sister and I are still slim and attractive and look the same but we couldn't say the same at all for the guys we grew up with.

Men are under the delusion that they can age and gain weight and it doesn't make any difference for them. They think they are still attractive. Men are allowed to age and gain weight but women aren't.

[Mia_Mia23456]

Originally Posted by Atlanta_BD

That's not true at all. While visiting my hometown last week, I saw many guys that I grew up with. They are all overweight or obese and old-looking. My sister and I are still slim and attractive and look the same but we couldn't say the same at all for the guys we grew up with.

Men are under the delusion that they can age and gain weight and it doesn't make any difference for them. They think they are still attractive. Men are allowed to age and gain weight but women aren't.

I've encountered the same thing. I look much younger than I am, and I'm in great shape. Unfortunately, most of the guys that I attended H.S. with, look much older for some odd reason. Perhaps it's from all of the drinking...

[alinka72]

Originally Posted by Mia_Mia23456

I constantly hear that Atlanta is the "black mecca," but it certainly doesn't seem like the black dating mecca. Are there plenty of suitable dating options for professional black women?

As to upward mobility for anyone: http://www.nytimes.com/2013/07/22/bu..._20130722&_r=0

Atlanta was found to be THE worse city in the country for upward mobility. I never believed their hype. Is all boosterism. Based on reality on the streets. observation and witness accounts I can positively affirm that the "black mecca" is no more, it actually never really was. It has been made up.

As to dating. I never encountered a married black female there. I mean, seriously married in a long term monogamous relationship. I'd say most of them put up with the 'culture' that goes down there. Either they are separated (the husbands left them but never divorced, husbands do not like to pay alimony or child support so they remain married), date bumps who date everyone else, mostly are single mothers.

City lacks diversity and it is too monolithic.

[alinka72]

Originally Posted by belleislerunner

The #1 fear of women meeting guys online is that they might turn out to be a serial killer. The #1 fear of men meeting women online is that they might turn out to be fat. Accept the reality and position yourself accordingly.

Being that there is a large amount of overweight women in Atlanta, what you're stating although truth, will never be accepted. Because that means admitting to a problem and subsequently having to lose weight. They do not want to do that because their crutch is their fat which they exchange for 'confidence'.