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I would like to hear from those who have abstained from sex till after their marriage and if God has blessed you with children and a long and happy marriage.
On the other hand, those who had willful sex with different partners and than finally found a mate to marry.
How would you describe your married relationship, as being blessed or countered difficulties because of not having abstained?
I do want to state that God looks at the heart and not the action, but keep in mind, that there is a thing called repentance.
This post is not in condemning any actions, but rather in seeking out the works of God in both instances.
Strangely, you only offered two diagonal choices instead of all four choices in the matrix. It makes it seems like you didn't mean what you said about seeking out the works of God in both instances, since your poll seems to be interested only in the good news stemming from abstinence and not the cases where abstinence had non-positive consequences, and interested only in the bad news stemming from lack of abstinence and not the cases where lack of abstinence non-negative consequences.
I would like to hear from those who have abstained from sex till after their marriage and if God has blessed you with children and a long and happy marriage.
I guess this means you don't want to hear from people who didn't abstain but still were blessed with children and a long and happy marriage?
I would like to hear from those who have abstained from sex till after their marriage and if God has blessed you with children and a long and happy marriage.
On the other hand, those who had willful sex with different partners and than finally found a mate to marry.
How would you describe your married relationship, as being blessed or countered difficulties because of not having abstained?
I do want to state that God looks at the heart and not the action, but keep in mind, that there is a thing called repentance.
This post is not in condemning any actions, but rather in seeking out the works of God in both instances.
Blessings, AJ
Why isn't this in the Christianity section? Is the OP looking for a fight?
Are those the only two outcomes? No sex- blessing. Sex-ramifications.
In order for your poll not to be so skewed to meet a preconceived notion of sex, you might add a few other options.
Loaded words... willful sex and the whole God will know you are lying so fess up and repent your sin stuff.
What you really wish to know is how many people are having sex before marriage. You are not interested in the abstinence. Reason? They have nothing to compare their experience with, and you assume any blessing is having no sex.
You want the good stuff. It is all about the sex. Just admit your interest. It is in other people having sex. Makes you hot.
I do not think your line of questioning will "seek out the works of God" at all.
The questions are biased and loaded. You want people who did not partake in pre-marital sex to vote how blessed they feel for their life decision. Meanwhile, you want those who did partake in premarital sex to vote that they have suffered ramifications (I assume, more about painting them as having suffered God's wrath?).
Either way, this pole will end up being self serving in how it was created.
Really, both of these groups are equally blessed in their families, as well as equally suffering consequences of their decisions. The "works of God" as you put it will run the gamut for both those who engage in premarital sex and those who don't. One group certainly does not hold an exclusive on the blessings of God (or even just the blessings of life for those who are not believers in faith) over another.
I would like to hear from those who have abstained from sex till after their marriage and if God has blessed you with children and a long and happy marriage.
On the other hand, those who had willful sex with different partners and than finally found a mate to marry. How would you describe your married relationship, as being blessed or countered difficulties because of not having abstained?
I do want to state that God looks at the heart and not the action, but keep in mind, that there is a thing called repentance.
This post is not in condemning any actions, but rather in seeking out the works of God in both instances.
Blessings, AJ
My wife and I have been happily married for 20 years as of this August. We have three terrific children.
We lived together for two and a half years before marrying.
I'm not under the illusion that my marital success is the result of some external 'blessing'. In part, we've worked hard and done right things (I don't say 'the right things' because there are numerous ways to do things such as a marriage 'right'). And in part, we've been lucky.
Sex is natural, pleasureable, and can enhance the human pair-bond. To refrain from having sex because an ancient book demands it is, frankly, absurd. I would advise people to work directly on their marriage, and not follow some bronze-age checklist in the hopes that some invisible-but-approving entity will sprinkle magical pixie dust on their union.
As an aside, our children we all born after we were married (the first two were born over a year after our wedding date, for those who must know the details of the timing).
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