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I once attended a funeral where it was specifically requested that we wear festive clothing/colors.
Yes, I've worn tie-dye to one funeral and a Jeff Gordon tee to another. We loaned Alabama tees to some people we knew who were attending the funeral of a fan and it had been requested. I think it's fun.
For me it's always a dark suit, white shirt, dark tie, black shoes.
It often turns out that I am dressed much more formally than anyone else in attendance. That varies a lot based on the socioeconomic status of the family and community, but I would still play it very conservatively, especially in Manhattan.
Same. If I were to go to one in Manhattan I'd be dressed as you describe.
I have gone to ones were we were asked to dress in bright colors.
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Originally Posted by joe from dayton
Have you been to a funeral lately? I have seen lots of t-shirts, shorts, plenty of people in sneakers, etc. Jeans and a pullover shirt are as dressy as some people get. Personally, I find it a little tacky, but some people don't know any better, and some don't have any better. Ultimately, their presence is what is most important.
Yes, after stressing over what to wear at a service about 10 years ago, I was pretty annoyed to find girls wearing tight clothes, bra straps exposed (ie a backless top without an appropriate bra), flip flops etc. Guys had tshirts with huge logos. It had been over 10 years since I went to a funeral and I guess things have changed.
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Same, especially in the summer when it's hot. Last few funerals I've been to have had plenty of jeans and t-shirts, especially in the summer. I saw plenty of ladies in flip flops and have even seen yoga pants/leggings.
For my own funeral i'm going to make a request for it to be casual in nature. I hate suits and dressing up, so I don't want to make anyone do so on my account.
People wear anything now. Often it says something in the Obituary, also. (I'm an administrator of an Obituary page so i read many of them.)
But WTS, if you are unsure just don't wear something really bright - unless the deceased always wore bright colors and you want to honor them. Like i said, people dress differently now than the old days.
I think the best thing you can do is just pay your respects.
My cousin died at age 70 back in 2009. He had a bunch of kids and grandkids. I was amazed at the viewing to see all the teenaged grandsons wearing suits and ties. I knew that was probably instilled in them by my cousin, you must have a good suit. Later I went to another relative's funeral and her grandson came in wearing jeans (in the church). I mean, OK if the kid doesn't have a suit, but jeans??
Anyway, my funeral attire is black pants and a black top or sweater set of some sort. I can't wear heels anymore so I just wear my black Skechers. No one's looking at my feet, I'm sure. I have worn a black hat to a funeral. But definitely, no hats on the male attendees at either the viewing or church.
This is a very strange statement.
Most professionals own dark and black suits, formal dress shirts, a black bow tie, and black patent leather shoes, even formal clothes because they attend gatherings that require formal attire.
Ever heard of formal dress code - white or black tie?
My son had to buy all that when he started adult life.
Those people aren't wait staff.
I have never know anyone to fret over the color of their winter coat or their umbrella when paying their respects.
Or the style of the coat - since the OP mentioned that also.
Way overthinking since those is among the OP's concerns...
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