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Originally Posted by L00k4ward
Just tell the truth: tell them you got it out of your system and want to try something new- working for a living.
It is actually being bold, some employers may like that honesty and you are being so straightforward, not a trickster.
Think what are your strength and describe them: you might know some great apps the business could use - shifts management, customers data , etc, etc.
Could you make a business promo video for different social platforms?
You obviously don’t mind seating long hours in front of the screen - maybe some video monitoring you could do?
Ask of their expectations and if you think you could fulfill them- just promise that you could do it.
Say you don’t mind an extended probation period.
Don’t get upset if they fire you after a bit if it is a bad fit.
Keep looking for another type job - the adversity builds resilience.
You will be able to observe people and interact with them as a co-worker - building up your social skills and becoming more confident.
How is your attention span for mundane repetitive tasks? A lot of entry level jobs is full of them.
Analyzing your current skills and presenting them to your employer could make them assign some positions you could try out.
What do you think you might be interested in doing?
Think you need to start with companies where you could walk in for interview.
Look up your state department of Labor and Training- they may have some programs they sponsor or at least conduct job fairs for unemployed- use them to get an idea.
You need to start somewhere.
If you analyzed your skills: try to make a résumé and sign up for professional accounts to look for entry level or training provided jobs.
Look into Google certificate programs too.
If you want to work - there is a job there for you, don’t fret!
Congrats on graduating to an adulthood!
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You're early with congrats for adulthood as the OP is making excuses why he can't do whatever entry level jobs everyone is suggesting, he's also talking about government assistance applying for disability for his "social anxiety". He will never get over his anxiety unless he gets out of the house whether it's a J O B or to see a psych for medications. He has never been diagnosed, has some how managed to live without medication.
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Originally Posted by yologuy01
The alternative to not working for a living would probably be homeless. That's a great motivator to not giving up. I guess I can't be sure what will happen but people can change for the better. I can't know what will happen unless I try. Laziness is not my main issue, social phobia is.
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If you do have social anxiety/ phobia you need to get out of the house to
see a doctor to get a diagnosis then they will prescribe medications which should help. You
need to do it ASAP because once COVID dies down, the job market returns to normal, your chances of working get slimmer.
A lot of
entry level jobs are hurting for help. It's the
perfect time for you to start adulting to prepare for the rest of your life
without parents to fall back on.
I'm surprised your step father has not thrown you out yet.
What about a father? Do you have one in your life? How does he feel about you not working?
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Originally Posted by yologuy01
Self assessment. I will have to visit the right professionals. Also apply for social anxiety disability. I don't think I have any hard skills, I don't have any skills
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Your parents are probably in their 50's like me. You could lose one or both of them, especially these days with cancer. In 2009, my hub was diagnosed with stage 4 tonsil cancer in his early 50's. His type was caused by the HPV virus which is a sexually transmitted disease. I've known a lot of people diagnosed with some type of oral cancer since then, one of my school classmates significant other was just diagnosed with tongue cancer, had surgery the other day.
I used to go to oral cancer message boards, there were some
husband and wives fighting it at the same time. Not all of them survived either. Some that did, did not drink to keep swallowing during treatment, if you don't do that, you lose the ability to swallow. Those that it happened to
stopped working, so life at home
changed drastically without that main paycheck.
My point is that there are
a lot of things in this world that can take out one or both of your parents. You mentioned
being homeless which is a
reality for someone like you who not only does not have a job, you've got no work history. Add to it your undiagnosed anxieties. You would be
drowning trying to figure out what to do. I doubt that you drive or own a car so you couldn't even live in your car. Maybe you have relatives that will allow you to live there, continuing to do nothing to help pay for your way with their electric, gas, water and food bills increasing due to you living there. You would over stay your welcome fairly quick.
You don't know how fortunate you are to "wake up" if you're really serious about getting a job right now because it is the perfect time for someone like you with no work history to apply to places because
most entry level jobs are hurting for help. They
will not care that you have no experience because help is better than no help.
Fast food by me is especially hurting, a few only do the drive thru because there is not enough staff to work registers and make the food. I personally would never work fast food. I also don't think it would be good for someone like you with social anxiety because you will be working shoulder to shoulder with people and have to deal directly with customers.
I agree with the suggestion that you consider an over night stocking job because you wouldn't be around a lot of people.
You also mentioned
applying for "social anxiety disability" which I take to mean that you want to apply for
social security disability which
you would not qualify for because you have not worked to pay into the social security system that you want to collect from which also brings up another point, retirement which is a
long way away for you "right now" in about 35 years but
now is when you need to worry about how you will live in retirement because it depends on what you do now to save for it.
When people retire, they get social security every month. Everyone's social security is different, for some it is $800, for others it's $2,000 or more depending on what type of job/career salary they had
that they paid into social security to collect at retirement. No work history equals no social security to collect from.
Some have pensions which are pretty much a thing of the past for "boomers". The newest way to save for retirement is a 401k which people have been paying into since they started working if they're lucky enough to have a job that participates. I don't have experience with 401k's, maybe someone else replying can elaborate on it so you will be able to see how
important it is that you get a 401k started to save for retirement.
Your
retirement will count on you, what you put into it. If you do not wake up,
living in the street will be what your retirement looks like.
Your only option would be to
apply for SSI which is
Supplemental Security Income which is for
people who are dirt poor, who have
not paid into social security, who
can not work. See the link I left, it tells specifics. I'm not sure what they pay per month, probably under $800 a month. You would have to be able to survive off of that for the rest of your life, that is
if you will even qualify.
I will mention
Walmart and Sam's club again which by me they're
hurting for help. As I mentioned,
they pay for employees to go to college. If college is something you may want to do, this may be a
good way to get college without applying for student loans which will put you in debt, debt that you can never claim on bankruptcy, it follows you to retirement, they will take your social security, if you do work and pay into it at some point, and it will follow you until you're in the ground. That is when the loan is done, when you die. The amount you borrow for student loans
will grow every day due to something called interest. Your $20k college could end up costing 3 or 4 times more due to interest.
Working for an employer that will pay for college is harder to find these days, especially entry level jobs like retail.
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Originally Posted by yologuy01
I think my life is evidence that I have extreme social phobia. Never had friends or girlfriend. In middle school and high school was asked by different students why I'm so quiet why I never talk. Unfortunately no official diagnosis. I wasn't in special ed or IEP. I did average in school. Didn't have the best of grades or the worst. It's not hard to just get by in school. I'm sure the teachers noticed I was very quiet. They probably assume I was a very shy kid. I don't know if I should have been in some kind of special ed.
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If you got by in school, then you did not need special ed or an IEP.
Since you are not diagnosed, you've been able to live without help from medications. IMO, you could not have had "extreme" social phobia because you did live all of your life without a diagnosis or medication.
I know people who do have bad anxieties or other "issues" to where they
could not go to school until their parents took them to a doctor to get medications. It was trial and error on what worked and what did not work.
It will be that much harder for you to prove to the government that you do have an actual illness that prevents you from working, even then, these days there are many things you can do where you won't be around people such as you tube videos, or doing some sort of online job, possibly running social media sites.
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