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I haven't worked because of social anxiety and partially because of laziness. I'm living with my parents. As far as I see it I can't afford to be honest with future employers or people I meet. The truth is too embarrassing. I may be honest if for some reason I get close to someone. I'll take advice on where do I begin in terms of making money. Also on what do I tell people. I wish things didn't come to this but my choices have led me to where I am today. I wish I didn't had to lie but for now that's my only option.
Do you have ANY skills that you could put to work?
Social anxiety is not an excuse. Have you been diagnosed by a professional? Or is that your self assessment?
Do yourself a favor, go join the Army and let them shake the "social anxiety" out of you!
Today's Army won't have him.
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Anxiety issues, either current or historical, or panic, agoraphobia, social phobia, simple phobias, obsessive-compulsive disorders, other acute reactions to stress, and post-traumatic stress are disqualifying for entry into the service.
If I were an employer, and you presented yourself well for an unskilled labor position, and you admitted to me what you've admitted to us in here today, I'd probably hire you. I like that kind of honesty, so I'd give you a chance to prove yourself,
Lie, and it's over.
This. The main point here being, it's one thing to claim you're ready to change and start being a productive person, but it's quite another to demonstrate it...even with a mouth breather job that doesn't inspire or interest you much. The proof is in the doing. That entry level grunt job is simply a means to an end. You gotta discipline yourself to look beyond it.
I'll take advice on where do I begin in terms of making money.
First and red alert most important: Do you know what you want to do for a living? You have any idea what interests you?
I'm guessing the answer is "no"
So, try taking a free Myers Briggs personality test online and find out your personality type. Then google "jobs for ISTJ" (or whatever your personality type is)
Then figure out what education and certification requirements there are for those roles. Make sure you look into internships if you go to school - internships outrank your classwork in important. No internships? You'll get hit by the catch-22 and your education becomes a decoration. So make sure your education program has internships.
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Also on what do I tell people
You tell them "there were personal issues and they were resolved."
I haven't worked because of social anxiety and partially because of laziness. I'm living with my parents. As far as I see it I can't afford to be honest with future employers or people I meet. The truth is too embarrassing. I may be honest if for some reason I get close to someone. I'll take advice on where do I begin in terms of making money. Also on what do I tell people. I wish things didn't come to this but my choices have led me to where I am today. I wish I didn't had to lie but for now that's my only option.
Back in June, 1944. A bunch of 18 yr old stormed the beaches of Omaha, Utah, Juno, etc. facing flying bullets from the machine guns. Many sacrificed but as result, it was the beginning of the U.S. victory in WW-II. Were they scare? Did they have Anxiety? you bet! But they marched on because of the sense of duty.
Social anxiety? Were you medically diagnosed? Otherwise, it sounds like a bunch of excuses to me. IMO, you had too comfortable life living with Mom & Dad. You've became soft & lazy. The best thing your parent can do is to kick you out of the house, then you have to go get a job.
Nothing like the need for money gives you the motivation you'll need. The motivation such as getting to work on time, complete the tasks assigned, and say "yes sir/ma'am".
If you lie just to get a job. You'll be fired in no time because of your laziness.
Do yourself a favor, go join the Army and let them shake the "social anxiety" out of you!
Joining the Army is the best suggestion here! There may even be a signup bonus to jumpstart your life!
Back in June, 1944. A bunch of 18 yr old stormed the beaches of Omaha, Utah, Juno, etc. facing flying bullets from the machine guns. Many sacrificed but as result, it was the beginning of the U.S. victory in WW-II. Were they scare? Did they have Anxiety? you bet! But they marched on because of the sense of duty.
Social anxiety? Were you medically diagnosed? Otherwise, it sounds like a bunch of excuses to me. IMO, you had too comfortable life living with Mom & Dad. You've became soft & lazy. The best thing your parent can do is to kick you out of the house, then you have to go get a job.
Nothing like the need for money gives you the motivation you'll need. The motivation such as getting to work on time, complete the tasks assigned, and say "yes sir/ma'am".
If you lie just to get a job. You'll be fired in no time because of your laziness.
Do yourself a favor, go join the Army and let them shake the "social anxiety" out of you!
This is terrible advice for the OP. The Army definitely isn't for everyone, actually no job is for everyone, but joining the Army at his age and social development would probably do more harm than good. The last thing the OP wants is a dishonorable discharge to set him back even further. You can't just shake social anxiety out of someone.
Better for the OP would be to recognize his strengths and weaknesses, make a plan and get help for anxiety if it's severe. If OP has anxiety a job that doesn't deal with a lot of people would make more sense than one that deals with a lot of people. I don't have advice on addressing the lack of work experience though.
This isn't all your fault. Your parents did you a disservice by not insisting that you work at least part-time and pay them something toward household expenses. It's their job to bring you to adulthood with all the skills and tools to launch from the nest. Something got lost in the cracks here. Time to fix it.
Yeah it truly is the parents fault. I was not given the option to do this. I didn't have to pay rent but I had to do something, meaning professional networking/interviews etc. Couldn't just lay around all day.
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