Was my remark out of line? (claim, fired, position, workplace)
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You don't have to say everything that comes into your head.
This was one of those times. You made her uncomfortable for no reason at all, except to embarrass her. Who on earth would deliberately embarrass their boss over what could possibly be interpreted as a low-key sexual come-on? And then to add the Freudian aspect to it -- knowing that almost everything Freud did had to do with sexual identity? Uh . . .
You may have taken psychology classes, but don't go around making armchair diagnoses. Now she knows that you can't control what comes out of your mouth, and enjoys putting other people on the spot. Nice move.
Mods, if this does not belong, please move. But it's about flirting.
I'm at work today and was discussing something (work- related) with supervisor.
So as we're wrapping up our discussion, she's sitting behind her desk, playing with her hair - just lightly tugging at the strands. We concluded our talk, I turn to leave her office, and impulsively - I don't know what the hell possessed me to say this - I look at her and say, "Oh, incidentally...didn't you study Psychology in college?" She said yes. So I say, "Not to take this the wrong way, but the tugging at your hair when you're speaking with someone...that's a flirtatious gesture." She looked at me levelly without a word; I said to her, "I studied Psych and the findings of Freud as well as body language!" Think I may have floored her, but meant no harm.
i'm afraid so. If someone said that to me my stomach would turn over as I cringed a little inside.
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Originally Posted by Gypsy-Moth
Don't be too sure about that. She filed it away in her head and likely now her awareness of you making a pattern of inappropriate remarks will be heightened.
this, i'd apologize asap before you become the "office creepo" (target female mentions it to another, then another, and another after that)
the good news OP is that we've ALL said some jacked up things at one time or another (even if we didn't think it was jacked up). It's embarassing and uncomfortable. I know those feelings well. I believe that the sooner you correct it the sooner this negativity can move along (and hopefully dissipate). Try to be sincere about it too, any flippancy at this point will only add fuel to the fire.
I apologized to her today. She was not being flirtatious she said, Just a lot of crap on her mind. I told her that she had every right to write me up or take whatever action. I don't expect anyone to believe this, but she stuck her finger in my face and said, "For the future, keep your remarks to yourself!"
I apologized to her today. She was not being flirtatious she said, Just a lot of crap on her mind. I told her that she had every right to write me up or take whatever action. I don't expect anyone to believe this, but she stuck her finger in my face and said, "For the future, keep your remarks to yourself!"
::::treading lightly::::
She was absolutely right, and in most corps, you would, and should, be unemployed today.
however,,,the comical part is women can do and say whatever they want and its just about ok
I notice women wil casually put their hand on my shoulder, arm , smile flirtatiously,,, and all is fine,,,,but if I did the same ,,,its a different world...
No it's not. If it's unwanted and the woman doesn't stop the behavior after you tell her to stop then you'd have the same harassment situation.
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Originally Posted by ItsRick24
I apologized to her today. She was not being flirtatious she said, Just a lot of crap on her mind. I told her that she had every right to write me up or take whatever action. I don't expect anyone to believe this, but she stuck her finger in my face and said, "For the future, keep your remarks to yourself!"
::::treading lightly::::
GOOD....I believe it.... keep worK in on....
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Was my remark out of line?
