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There is an employee in my office who always feels she is intentionally being excluded. She isn't, but she feels that if no one walks up to her to include her in something, she is excluded (saying, in the office "I am going to Starbucks does anyone want anything" is excluding her if no one specifically asks her, by name). Nuts, I know.
On Friday, she felt excluded again and sent a text message to me that she was upset. I told her she was wrong and that no one was excluding her. She then stated that a certain person was crass and rude and lacks class. I was not paying all that much attention to my phone and the person that she was calling crass, etc saw the text. And posted something to Facebook about the comment. (I had no idea this happened). So a little later I get an angry "How dare you tell her what I said I can't trust anyone" text. I had no idea what she was talking about, however the employee she was discussing did admit that she had seen the text.
The problem, this employee complains to the boss about everything and is also the office gossip/backstabber. She has talked about everyone in the office, all of it bad. I am not sure how she would be able to manage to say "I said something bad about an employee and the employee I told said something to the person I was talking about" but I REALLY don't want to deal with it. And, I didn't say anything...which she clearly does not believe. I feel like I am being drug into this for just trying to be nice to make her feel better.
Sorry this is so long...I think I also needed to vent,
I am planning to ignore it like it did not happen. Does anyone else think I should do something else?
Does anyone else think I should do something else?
Probably not. I'm pretty new to this forum, but your situation doesn't sound that unique or terrible.
I'd just keep doing my own work and meeting everything that's expected of me. Maybe try to avoid conversations/texts with your coworker as much as possible? Just always be strictly professional I guess...
I plan to avoid her at all costs at this point. She made my life a living nightmare when I started, and I knew it was her even when she was doing it. She is the type who trashes the person who is not there to everyone else. The bosses know this too.
I guess I am just really not interested in a conversation about this with anyone and I am annoyed that she said anything specific to me about one person. I guess I should have expected it as it is totally in character for her. And, stupid me for knowing that she was upset and trying to make her feel better...apparently that invites the trashing of co-workers in her mind.
My "I really feel for her as she was upset" part is at war with the "Are you kidding me this is not Junior High" and it is stupid part. Just wanted to make sure the side that was saying "IGNORE" wasn't wrong. Does that make sense?
My "I really feel for her as she was upset" part is at war with the "Are you kidding me this is not Junior High" and it is stupid part. Just wanted to make sure the side that was saying "IGNORE" wasn't wrong. Does that make sense?
Yup. If your co worker manages to quit or get herself fired, holla at me! I'm a college grad still looking for a job. I swear I'm not a total witch either, ha.
Yup. If your co worker manages to quit or get herself fired, holla at me! I'm a college grad still looking for a job. I swear I'm not a total witch either, ha.
I don't care if she stays or goes, I just don't want to deal with her. And I am more than a little annoyed that a "Have a good weekend" text got me involved in her drama mainly as I usually do a good job of making it really clear that I am not going to be involved in gossip and it usually skips me. GRRRRR
I don't care if she stays or goes, I just don't want to deal with her. And I am more than a little annoyed that a "Have a good weekend" text got me involved in her drama mainly as I usually do a good job of making it really clear that I am not going to be involved in gossip and it usually skips me. GRRRRR
Yeah, that sucks. It seems to happen almost everywhere though, I've heard stories like this from friends and family who work in all different industries.
I feel bad for her. And at the same time want nothing to do with her, which probably means I am now going to end up excluding her. Her craziness has made me feel like I am a hamster on a wheel...
Definitely just ignore her! She will probably twist things to her favor. Stay out of the fray.
For your coworker that posted on FB stupid, stupid, stupid.
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I'm a college grad still looking for a job. I swear I'm not a total witch either, ha.
