Why are Seatte/Puget Sound girls such flakes and so picky? - dating scene sucks here (Seattle: school, to live in)

[Herbie Chesnutt]

Based on this one post, seems the OP has a lot of "me" work to do. Know who you are, get comfy in your skin, and stop trying too hard and your romantic life will take care of itself. Start with understanding that your "luck" with the ladies, good and bad, starts and stops with you. Own that and you'll be well on your way.

That said, dry spells suck. I assure you, something will click the moment you least expect it. Hang in there.

[homesinseattle]

Herbie, well spoken. The truth, with heartfelt and sincere encouragement. Good combo.

[Howest2008]

Originally Posted by CityWok

There's nothing wrong with Seattle women. They're some of the most polite I've seen.

So you met a few who were not interested in you and you got frustrated. Please...

Bullseye . ...

[globalcitizen]

Rampant feminism as elsewhere in the US. Why even bother? Most of them are a bunch of overweight, tatted up, pierced up hipsters. You consider that attractive? They're not worth your time. If there's one normal looking chick all the guys will be over her and the ***** shields will rise high but that same girl would be considered average somewhere in Eastern Europe for example. Look elsewhere. Plenty of feminine women on this planet worth pursuing. Many of them would love to move to America.

[SeattleSnowFlakes]

Originally Posted by RVD90277

It has been many years since I was dating but I would say that maybe you should cast your net shallow and wide as opposed to narrow and deep.

Treat it as a numbers game. Dates that don't work out should be shrugged so you can move along to the next one, etc.

I have tried many avenues to date, ranging from online dating to being introduced to girls by relatives or church acquaintances. All of them seem to end up as a one-date occurence. Girls here tend to be flakes, that for sure.

You meet them for coffee and chat. you think that things will lead on. Only to have me ask the girl for a follow-up date, maybe walk around Pt Defiance Park or have lunch together, and the girl makes up excuses that she will meet up with co-workers on Saturday, and then you ask her if she's available other days and she makes excuses that Christmas Shopping is on her agenda.

[SeattleSnowFlakes]

Originally Posted by franklin42

Do we really need another thread like this? REALLY? It's always the OP's fault. Always. End of story.

Hey franklin, quit placing the blame on me when you know jack sh-t about my situations.

I am an honest and hard working guy.

I have had difficulty dating here in Seattle or greater Puget Sound area because I have tried internet dating and this city is worse off than my home city in California.

[SeattleSnowFlakes]

Originally Posted by Hemlock140

I supervise 5 employees, 4 of them, ages 26-32 have gotten married in the 6 years that I have been their manager. Both my daughter and my son have gotten married in the last 8 years. All of them met here in the Seattle area. I don't think your experience can be considered a general problem with the "girls" here.

Well, whipee doo on your employees getting laid or getting married early on in life. There are also factors that affect one's chances of dating, including socio-economic class, your racial background, etc.

Yes, I have traveled to various cities on the left coast, and WA state girls in general tend to be flakes.

They're very picky and snooty, kind of like girls I've met in L.A.

[87112]

Yeah, OP it is hard as hell dating anywhere. Ladies are taught find the best you can. But it never ends, there is always someone better looking, taller, more money, smarter than you. The search using that criteria means one's search is never over.

[homesinseattle]

Count me as another vote for what Rombus said. I know just in my Seattle social circle a number of physically beautiful, very healthy, highly educated, sharply witty, widely traveled, extremely intelligent, financially independent/successful and very cultured women. It is a fact that Seattle and this area have a high percentage of people like this, both men and women. Men need to bring much to the table to interest some one like that in them, I agree. The flip side is that women need to bring a lot to the table to interest these kinds of men. So, you are challenged from two sides: women who demand a whole lot more and really put together men who are true competition for you. To me, it's worth it in spades. OP, make yourself the best you can be (emotionally, physically, vocationally, attitude wise). Cultivate "you", then there will be much more of "them" interested in you. In fact, do that and you will be irresistible!

[mishigas73]

Originally Posted by SeattleSnowFlakes

I have tried many avenues to date, ranging from online dating to being introduced to girls by relatives or church acquaintances. All of them seem to end up as a one-date occurence. Girls here tend to be flakes, that for sure.

You meet them for coffee and chat. you think that things will lead on. Only to have me ask the girl for a follow-up date, maybe walk around Pt Defiance Park or have lunch together, and the girl makes up excuses that she will meet up with co-workers on Saturday, and then you ask her if she's available other days and she makes excuses that Christmas Shopping is on her agenda.

If all of your dating experience boils down to "one and done", isn't it possible that it's not entirely due to character defects of other people?

People in this area, of all ages and types, get together all the time.

Perhaps, instead of bemoaning how "girls" in this area don't give "good guys" a chance, take a look at yourself and what you are bringing to the table, so to speak. Also, do you really want "girls" who are not that into you to continue to go out with you? Are you really that desperate?