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I'm on the fence with this one. Technically I'm going to have to agree to testing.
I must agree with JetJockey in saying I would be offended if someone asked me to take that test because I'm not that kind of woman.
Unfortunately, there are some women who have no conscience and would stick anyone with a child to trap them OR to help them raise a child that might not be there's.
To men, I think the best thing for them to do is make use of the new paternity kit that you could mail for results. Do it on the low and get your results mailed to a p.o. box. No one has to know you did it.
The only problem with the mail in test is that the other person might get hurt.
I think it might be a good idea to make it mandatory because of all of the little tramps out there these days and I've heard of way too many cases where the mother was unsure of who the father was.
But personally, if my SO asked me to have a paternity test I would be very very hurt and offended, considering he's the only person I've ever been with.
It should only be mandatory if there is a child support dispute, rather than mandatory across the board. Even the suggestion of that still makes me cringe.
I could see tying paternity testing for ALL divorce actions that have kids .. after all child support is gonna be part of the action so why not .. marriage is over anyways so why couldnt that happen?
If the kids are all "his" then there is none of the excuses of aint gonna pay childsupport .. if there not then so be it no child support for that kid ...
stops alot of crap and games ..
I'm going to agree with those who've said that if paternity testing is mandatory across the board, then fine. But if my SO came out and asked me personally to take a test I would be insulted. I don't give a rats you-know-what if ALL his previous girlfriends and/or wives were sleeping around on him. I don't cheat. I have never cheated, and if I had a baby while I was married to, or dating him then darn tootin' it's his child.
I can see it when there is a legitimate issue, such as for child support or custody. Fine, court order, you have your paternity test, bada bing, you know who the daddy is (or isn't).
But, I fail to see the point of "across the board testing" or "proactive testing". Aside from the fact that the makers of those tests would be raking in the dough, I don't see a benefit for anyone else.
I see this in the same was as I see prenuptual agreements. You want one? Fine, you deal with it one-on-one with your mate. Have the cojones to stand up to her and say "hey, I want to be sure that this kid is mine/protect my assets", and deal with the consequences.
I'm not a cheating *****. I would be very insulted if my boyfriend/husband asked for a DNA paternity test. If you're even contemplating asking, maybe you should re-evaluate your relationship.
Same here!
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