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Did this work, they say most people are divoreced bue to finances or in-laws............sounds like a good plan, though. (just curious)
Really? I never heard that in-laws had that much clout to lead a marriage to divorce. I figured it was money and children over other things (infidelity, drinking, etc). My first MIL was a saint. Now that she's no longer my MIL I guess my odds are the next one will be evil. I think I'll begin looking for mates who's parents have already passed away.
no offense, but I can't possibly be the only person who thinks all of that sounds more like a business arrangement than a marriage
Keep in mind that people probably only had one account in the old days b/c only one person was making any money. Wifey still had to access said money to run the household.
I don't think how many bank accounts you choose to have is any reflection on your marriage or commitment to each other. In fact, it's quite irrelevant, in my opinion. Just b/c some people choose to make a big deal out of it does not mean it holds the same significance for others.
"What are your financial arrangements in your marraige?"
We try to make money as often as possible. Right now--things are not going so well.
We have been broke, or close to it for most of the marriage. Couple of good years during the 90's. Now poor yet again, one more time.....all of the kids are struggling to make a living right now too. Financial difficulties and inlaws have got to be the hardest trials of a marriage.
Life has not been easy but we are in this together. The few times we did actually manage to get ahead of the bills, by god those were good times indeed.
A lot of people now do a prenuptial agreement. No one in their right mind wants to be used by someone else to subsidize that person's overspending and then get dumped, but that happens alot. Divorce is too easy and divorce settlements get so costly, especially for men, that I am surprised people still do get married. Many have been divorced more than once. Very few people get married for the right reasons now. So many people are trying to see what they can get out of it instead of trying to see what they can add to it. My parents were married for over sixty years when they died, two years apart from each other. They had to work at it with the attitude that they were working for their family and what they could add to help each other, not worrying that they weren't ecstatic every minute of the day. Ashton Kutcher was in a movie that there was a speech by the actor who played his father that really made sense. He pointed out the pictures in an album. He said, "Those were the good days... and the rest were just the days in between. Those are most days." Between the talk shows and Dr. Phil and all of the other media hype press and all, a person can get the idea that everyone is supposed to be happy because their spouse is supposed to make them happy. They don't realise that is your own job to make yourself happy. Some people just aren't cut out to be married and have a family but they keep trying through multiple divorces and it is really sad. Society tells us things should be a certain way and NOTHING is true for everyone. You have to decide what you want, no one else can know that for you.
Business arrangement or not, if this works for most of us, don't knock it. Marriage, by the way IS a contract, thus it is a pseudo-business arrangement.
Most people living in LaQuinta probably have few $$$ problems to worry about. Current economy notwithstanding.
We have joint accounts. Even his business account is a joint account in my name as well. I do not work, I'm still a student, so obviously he is the one contributing to them. We share everything, and that is the way our parents were as well.
We both have direct deposit so every Friday, I stop by the bank and get us some spending cash...not much...about $40.00 per.
With the exception of the regular bills, groceries included, any purchase over $75.00 is discussed.
We;re usually in agreement tho.
If you don't me asking but do you and your fiancee make more or less the same amount? Would you feel the same if one made significanlty more than the other?
I make a little more than 4x my fiancee. But he's also in college finishing up his BS, so I'm waiting for him to play catch up
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