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Been unhappily married over 20+yrs to a workaholic, who adopted my 2 daughters who are grown now. He has refused to have a sexual relationship with me during this time. I have suffered an emotional breakdown as a result to put it mildly and now, a 3 yr breast cancer survivor am ready to give him the boot. I am in mental health therapy and I want a divorce but fear it will hurt my girls because I obviously cannot tell them this horrible secret. the girls do not know the real reason for my break down. I don't want to hurt them, but I don't want to go on living this lie. Any advice?
your girls are adults now.
all you need to tell them is your not happy in your relationship, hes not able to give you what you need and you need to do this for your own sanity.
if your not happy (and id assume hes not happy either) then its time to get out before perminent damage is done to your mental state.
Been unhappily married over 20+yrs to a workaholic, who adopted my 2 daughters who are grown now. He has refused to have a sexual relationship with me during this time.
First good job at fighting the cancer, that's a battle in and of itself. Second as for this man you are married to. You CAN divorce him and you CAN tell your adult daughters, they will be able to handle it and you may be surprised at how much they already know from seeing it for all of these years. They are probably wondering why you stay but have not asked you for fear of making it uncomfortable. Trust me though, they know you're not happy. This will not be news to them.
Been unhappily married over 20+yrs to a workaholic, who adopted my 2 daughters who are grown now. He has refused to have a sexual relationship with me during this time. I have suffered an emotional breakdown as a result to put it mildly and now, a 3 yr breast cancer survivor am ready to give him the boot. I am in mental health therapy and I want a divorce but fear it will hurt my girls because I obviously cannot tell them this horrible secret. the girls do not know the real reason for my break down. I don't want to hurt them, but I don't want to go on living this lie. Any advice?
Your daughters are grown women. Leave the low-life and if they ask why tell them..
You'd think he sacrificed kittens and ate babies. He's a workaholic with no sex drive, not the son of Satan.
The OP sounds like an emotionally fragile person. The only reason to tell the daughters of your personal issues is to create drama so don't do it. Just move on with your life and seek things and people that bring you happiness.
Been unhappily married over 20+yrs to a workaholic, who adopted my 2 daughters who are grown now. He has refused to have a sexual relationship with me during this time. I have suffered an emotional breakdown as a result to put it mildly and now, a 3 yr breast cancer survivor am ready to give him the boot. I am in mental health therapy and I want a divorce but fear it will hurt my girls because I obviously cannot tell them this horrible secret. the girls do not know the real reason for my break down. I don't want to hurt them, but I don't want to go on living this lie. Any advice?
You are a very brave woman and obviously an excellent mother. But now that your kids are grown, please think about yourself for once and do the right thing.
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