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I went ahead and deleted my Tinder account and app. The highs and the lows were taking their toll on me mentally. Getting all excited about some pretty girl that matches with me, only to not hear back, or get unmatched all together. Then I go to a real dark place, I start contemplating suicide and all.
Well, Tinder did motivate me to go to the dentist. I even went out and bought a new outfit, for all my dates LOL.
I went ahead and deleted my Tinder account and app. The highs and the lows were taking their toll on me mentally. Getting all excited about some pretty girl that matches with me, only to not hear back, or get unmatched all together. Then I go to a real dark place, I start contemplating suicide and all.
Well, Tinder did motivate me to go to the dentist. I even went out and bought a new outfit, for all my dates LOL.
Hundreds easily. It's not about finding one you're compatible with, that's not the hardest part. You have to be compatible, attracted, have good chemistry in and out of the bedroom, and then want the same thing, THEN of course, they have to have all those things with you, THEN you need to make the relationship work.
It's a freaking tall order, and it makes sense it is hard to find, because a fairly small percentage of the population is going to hit on each of those factors and you'll hit on theirs a small percentage of the time. I probably have 50-100 first meetings, easily, between meeting a match where it makes sense to pursue monogamy (one every 2-3 years or so, on average), and most don't work out past a few months as something comes up for one person, or the other, or life stuff gets in the way.
Agree with all of this.
Also, I need to start shipping in the water from wherever this guy lives. I've had four dates in the last decade.
I doubt it's JUST Tinder. I've been low before, and it ends up being everything,including our modern electronic ways of meeting people, that when they all let you down, you feel really lonely.
When you see other's succeed at something social, then you relentlessly fail, it hurts... even in it's "a just for fun app" that shouldn't be taken seriously.
Also, I need to start shipping in the water from wherever this guy lives. I've had four dates in the last decade.
I tend to get a lot of first dates as well. The key is definitely the photos (no selfies/sunglasses and showing your body type and face) and filling out the bio description boxes (or however many they have depending on the app).
I went ahead and deleted my Tinder account and app. The highs and the lows were taking their toll on me mentally. Getting all excited about some pretty girl that matches with me, only to not hear back, or get unmatched all together. Then I go to a real dark place, I start contemplating suicide and all.
Well, Tinder did motivate me to go to the dentist. I even went out and bought a new outfit, for all my dates LOL.
Oh geez. I had a guy match with me on Bumble yesterday and then unmatch me as soon as I sent him a message. I believe he’s done it before in the past so I assume he gets some kind of kick out of it. I was annoyed for a second that I fell for it again and then I let it go. I do believe there are good reasons to commit suicide, but lack of dating app success is not one of them.
I'll admit, living close to NYC in my case likely helps a lot.
I've lived in three major cities over the last ~eight years in the Northwest, Southwest, and now the East Coast (only done Tinder and Bumble in the latter two, though, but did regular OLD in all of them). I probably did the best in the Northwest, but my "best" was like one date a year, haha!
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I've had four dates in the last decade.
