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You're right. I'm very aware that my driving limitations are a problem, but that's not really what I wanted to discuss in this thread.
The great thing about online discussions (and all discussions) is that once they start they take on a life of their own and there is no "ownership" of them.
Right--does this mean you don't travel? That might be a dealbreaker in itself.
I think the forest is being missed for the trees. Forget the 10 mile radius. Let us assume that there is someone who is either physically within that area or does not mind driving to her location. I have a family who has anxiety. He cannot
go to the store to get his wife a card or flowers
do the grocery shopping
make any kind of compromise or problem solution with his wife
be home alone
go out with the family
The list is endless.
ALL of these things require accommodation. The more accommodation and avoidance, the more the anxiety grows, increasing the list of things that he cannot do until it is just the wife who does everything that is not his work responsibility. This seems to be the nature of anxiety.
It is not a healthy relationship, or at least not one that I would want to be a part of. That is going to limit the options for the OP as it relates to finding someone who is going to be willing to even do a relationship like that, forget about the resentment and the like that is formed over the years if you manage to even acquire a relationship.
And even let's forget relationships. Does anyone argue that a person's growth and self love is not severely limited by the limitations that they allow themselves?
You're right. I'm very aware that my driving limitations are a problem, but that's not really what I wanted to discuss in this thread.
Well, I think arguments about what is reasonable or unreasonable about what to expect from other people are largely useless. I think what you get from this thread is that some people would do that and some won't. YMMV.
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