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He works alot and travels frequently as part of his job ( he is a pharmaceutical engineer). He's home for about 5 days then he's gone for about 2-3 weeks. Would you date or start a relationship with someone like him?
I was incredibly clingy in all my realtionships, was NEVER single and then I met a military guy when I was 28. My friends said, that I am the wrong person to be with somebody who is never home.
He was gone ALOT. I just HAD to get over my clinginess and start living/building my own life.
If you are really in love, it can work. But you HAVE to get your own life and not just sit at home and wait and maybe even give him a bad conscious. Don't make him feel bad for being gone all the time. Make him happy when he is around. You'll enjoy the 5 days much more and maybe don't get hung up on little things that bother you on each other.
He'll miss alot of important events if he can't make his own schedule (like concerts, birthdays, weddings, births, etc.). But that's just how it is. I have a dog who helped me over the loneliness. It took me actually a few years to adjust to the military life and then even 8 months alone were doable. At least you can text/call your engineer and don't have to worry as much as I did when my hubby was in a foreign country fighting for his country.
It did not work out with my sailor (for other reasons) but I would date another military guy again.
it will be difficult. I fly almost every day..when you dont cultivate something on a consistent basis..its more likely to WEAR down any relationship. it's not healthy
No. Part of the reason my wife & I got divoriced was all she did was work. And when she was home she was alseep or going on about what was going on at work. I like having someone home to share & do things with. Everyone is different though.
I was incredibly clingy in all my realtionships, was NEVER single and then I met a military guy when I was 28. My friends said, that I am the wrong person to be with somebody who is never home.
He was gone ALOT. I just HAD to get over my clinginess and start living/building my own life.
If you are really in love, it can work. But you HAVE to get your own life and not just sit at home and wait and maybe even give him a bad conscious. Don't make him feel bad for being gone all the time. Make him happy when he is around. You'll enjoy the 5 days much more and maybe don't get hung up on little things that bother you on each other.
He'll miss alot of important events if he can't make his own schedule (like concerts, birthdays, weddings, births, etc.). But that's just how it is. I have a dog who helped me over the loneliness. It took me actually a few years to adjust to the military life and then even 8 months alone were doable. At least you can text/call your engineer and don't have to worry as much as I did when my hubby was in a foreign country fighting for his country.
It did not work out with my sailor (for other reasons) but I would date another military guy again.
Good post. Assuming I really loved the guy, still unsure if I could do it. I'd have to try it and find out.
My husband travels for work and is usually gone through the week but home on weekends. It has steadily increased as he has changed positions and taken on more responsibilities within his company. We say we've been married so long (37 years) because we've only been together for 1/2 the time. We both like our space and enjoy each other when we are together.
My parents have been married for 70 years and could probably count the number of days they've been apart on two hands. Anything will work if you want it enough.
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I'd do it again!
