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I've been sleeping with this guy. The sex is great, but I don't see any relationship potential. So I told him we'll just sleep together and that's it. He said that's all right with him, but then started acting kind of clingy right away. Like saying I should sleep over at his house sometime. When I left his house he seemed sad and was hugging and kissing me and told me to text him when I got home. And when he was kissing me he asked if that seemed too boyfriend-like. And saying he's gonna come over ths weekend and spend the nght with me. And other stuff like that.
If I told him I just want sex with him, why does he start acting like that? It makes things confusing.
I've been sleeping with this guy. The sex is great, but I don't see any relationship potential. So I told him we'll just sleep together and that's it. He said that's all right with him, but then started acting kind of clingy right away. Like saying I should sleep over at his house sometime. When I left his house he seemed sad and was hugging and kissing me and told me to text him when I got home. And when he was kissing me he asked if that seemed too boyfriend-like. And saying he's gonna come over ths weekend and spend the nght with me. And other stuff like that.
If I told him I just want sex with him, why does he start acting like that? It makes things confusing.
Um, we need to go out for a drink, girl. Please read what I just wrote in this section, under the title, "Just Sex, Please".
I am having the same exact problem! I'm totally up front, yet I keep getting these guys that want to have slumber parties or tell me I'm pretty. I think maybe they get clingy b/c they want what they can't have? I have no idea.
I just know you are my karma sister, or some cosmic crap like that.
I've been sleeping with this guy. The sex is great, but I don't see any relationship potential. So I told him we'll just sleep together and that's it. He said that's all right with him, but then started acting kind of clingy right away. Like saying I should sleep over at his house sometime. When I left his house he seemed sad and was hugging and kissing me and told me to text him when I got home. And when he was kissing me he asked if that seemed too boyfriend-like. And saying he's gonna come over ths weekend and spend the nght with me. And other stuff like that.
If I told him I just want sex with him, why does he start acting like that? It makes things confusing.
Really? People say what they think someone wants to hear, no more so then where relationships and/or sex is involved. He probably figures if he agrees it'll keep you around longer, he's right in that sense anyhow.
You've never liked someone a bit more than they liked you?
I'm not trying to be funny here, but she told him that she just wanted to have sex, and that's it. He agreed. How is that mean and insensitive?
Usually, you don't get aroused by someone you find undesirable. In that sense, for the majority of people in my view, male or female seperating sex from feeling an emotional connection with someone is difficult for most.
While I don't have the full picture, I'm going to guess she's not painting the full picture for this guy, full gory detail as to how she views him, sex, and if there are other "players" involved.
Far more men I think can handle this scenario (with solo players), but even then still fewer than are advertised.
Because he doesn't know what the heck he is talking about.
She is getting him and herself into trouble by engaging in sex. He is a clinger and has developed some form of attachment which is fine.
She is insensitive and cruel for using him in a sexual way. The guy doesn't know any better. When you are having a lot of amazing sex and developing emotional ties it feels like you are having the best glass of wine in the world.
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Originally Posted by ilovebdj
I'm not trying to be funny here, but she told him that she just wanted to have sex, and that's it. He agreed. How is that mean and insensitive?
So is what you are saying is this guy really likes me and has more than just sex feelings for me and I'm going to hurt him? Because I thought any guy would be thrilled to have a sex only relationship.
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