Would a girl with an eating disorder be considered "damaged" goods?
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Curious on anyone's thoughts why this is generally a female phenomona. Not to make light of the subject at hand, but when I hear a male and ED in the same sentence, I'm thinking of something much different lol.
No - your comments weren't the ones that I found cruel or mean.
Although I struggled for a long time (and will always struggle though not to the same extent), I never had to be hospitalized and I was always able to function. My "bad" times might have lasted a lot longer than some of my friends - but I had many friends that had it much worse than I did. Many of them had to be hospitalized. Luckily, all of ones that I am still in contact with are doing fine. One of them had a baby shortly before I did. And I was very relieved that I was able to get pregnant so easily and that my body doesn't seem to have suffered any lasting damage.
I do agree with you in that it is really hard to love someone who has a severe problem. But I don't think that someone who is doing fairly well should be regarded as damaged goods or anyone with a problem should be looked down upon.
I think the word choice of "damaged goods" could have been better. In fact, terminology that refers to women as commodities, such as "goods," is part of what creates an atmosphere conducive to eating disorders. The obsession with and objectification of women's bodies in society and the media, wherein a woman's worth is tied to her physical beauty even as the ideal is sickly and unhealthy, just pushes it along.
Someone up-thread said that they were surprised that people reading the posts here about women's bodies and weight DON'T develop eating disorders, and I agree. Thread after thread after thread on here holds women up as worthy only insofar as they are "hot," and heaven forbid a woman have a few extra pounds. Quite a few of the members here think nothing of heaping scorn on fat people, calling them names, casting aspersions on them as lazy, stupid, etc. Honestly, I consider that a form of misogyny and hate speech.
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Curious on anyone's thoughts why this is generally a female phenomona. Not to make light of the subject at hand, but when I hear a male and ED in the same sentence, I'm thinking of something much different lol.
There is plenty of research out there about it. Spend a few minutes clicking around reputable sites and academic journals.
Curious on anyone's thoughts why this is generally a female phenomona. Not to make light of the subject at hand, but when I hear a male and ED in the same sentence, I'm thinking of something much different lol.
Yeah. I reckon some might think of a guy with ED as "damaged goods."
If that someone was very unkind.
Not talking about you, just taking in general.
Every woman I ever knew who had an eating disorder had either been abused or had very domineering parents. Or both.
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Yeah. I reckon some might think of a guy with ED as "damaged goods."
If that someone was very unkind.
Not talking about you, just taking in general.
Every woman I ever knew who had an eating disorder had either been abused or had very domineering parents. Or both.
Not me. And actually - not many of my friends. We were all from a very affluent area where there was a lot of pressure to be perfect. And I think some of us who already had perfectionist tendencies didn't handle it all that well. My parents were amazing and never pressured me or made me feel bad about myself. There were those that had things going on their lives that were out of their control though - so they tried to control some of the only things they could. But I think eating disorders are more like addictions. Some people can drink and not become alcoholics. Some people can diet and obsess about their appearance and not develop an eating disorder. And then there are those that are just prone to such things for whatever reason - genes, biology, nature, nurture, etc.
Not me. And actually - not many of my friends. We were all from a very affluent area where there was a lot of pressure to be perfect. And I think some of us who already had perfectionist tendencies didn't handle it all that well. My parents were amazing and never pressured me or made me feel bad about myself. There were those that had things going on their lives that were out of their control though - so they tried to control some of the only things they could. But I think eating disorders are more like addictions. Some people can drink and not become alcoholics. Some people can diet and obsess about their appearance and not develop an eating disorder. And then there are those that are just prone to such things for whatever reason - genes, biology, nature, nurture, etc.
Yeah. I should've included extreme societal pressure. That was often something I saw connected to eating disorders among my friends. Not just "I want to look good."
That's an oversimplification. More like "If I don't look perfect, I am a complete and utter failure."
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Are we trying to create an Aryan race here? Is everyone "damaged goods" these days? People with an eating disorder? Single mothers? Clingy people?
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