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Somehow I wonder if the OP isn't projecting his insecurity about his number of sexual partners on others...because as many people as I've encountered and dated, very few have asked me my number of sexual partners.
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Originally Posted by xxbabeechick
Somehow I wonder if the OP isn't projecting his insecurity about his number of sexual partners on others...because as many people as I've encountered and dated, very few have asked me my number of sexual partners.
Yes, that, but I find it annoying in general, because of how it treats everyone who isn't interested in keeping score.
Somehow I wonder if the OP isn't projecting his insecurity about his number of sexual partners on others...because as many people as I've encountered and dated, very few have asked me my number of sexual partners.
I think he's still pretty young, and young men do like to brag sometimes unfortunately.
So I'm guessing he's feeling judged by his peers, not adults in the real world
Somehow I wonder if the OP isn't projecting his insecurity about his number of sexual partners on others...because as many people as I've encountered and dated, very few have asked me my number of sexual partners.
Thats what I got out of it. Ive never asked a woman about how many men she's been with, but have always had a pretty good idea when its been a lot or few. Not that I haven't heard a few stories from them.
Actually, the women at either end of the spectrum are usually poor lovers (Few- A lot), one due to lack of experience the other due to lack a sensitivity.
yes they absolutely do. if you have too many or if you have too few after a 'certain' age they write you off as a mentally challenged freak. That is the way things are, whether or not they 'should or shouldn't' be this way is irrelevant. This is how they are, so what difference does it make?
If you have too few or too many compared to some poorly-defined "norm" at a particular age, some people may think there's something odd or even wrong with you. A 40 year old virgin is certainly unusual, but it's their life and presumably their choice, unless some personality trait or psychological condition has prevented them from experiencing an intimate relationship. I don't look down on them, but would be curious about their situation.
Virginity above the age of 18-20 or so is certainly seen as somewhat strange in the States, although "waiting until marriage" is still seen as admirable by many, including some young people. But many of the people who do that, and persevere, marry early - in their early 20's or so.
People will generally assume that two adults in a committed relationship are sexually active unless they are very religious, so they likewise assume that a virgin, unless very religious themselves, has never had a relationship.
Staying with one partner all your life is idealized by many.
On the other hand, sleeping with too many people is still viewed as immoral or at least "gross" by most of American society. This is quite a double standard, with promiscuity being much more looked down upon in women then men. Sleeping with dozens or hundreds of people, if made known, will definitely earn a female the title of "*****" or "****". Reactions will vary from "player" or "pimp" to "manwhore" if they are male, although praise of male promiscuity seems limited to (some) males.
I get annoyed when this discussion comes up: so how many people have you had sex with/slept with? It's almost as if people make fun of you if you've been with say 4 or less. It's like you're expected to play the field these days. People who only want to be with one person are seen as quaint and old-fashioned, even if some people think it's sweet, they're secretly thinking 'I could never do that.'
It's as if, if you haven't slept with at least 5 before you're 30 there's something wrong with you. It's expected that relationships won't last long (people act surprised if they last more than a 5 years) and you'll move on.
Tri. We need to talk.
I realize this is a forum and that forums are propelled by people asking questions, getting answers, and thrashing out their differences of opinion.
But do you realize how many questions you ask on here? My God.
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