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For example, he had really bad credit. As in, astronomically bad, six digits. I told myself not to sweat the "small stuff," but it was not small stuff at all. It affected me every day of our marriage.
I suppose I should clarify. He'd racked up more than $100,000 in debt and had not paid it back. Creditors called every hour on the hour. There was no attempt to mitigate, e.g., go to credit counseling or file for personal bankruptcy. AND ... he continued to rack up debt on MY cards. Not cool, when you can't pay back your own. That was the tip of the iceberg.
When I was younger I had my heart stomped on, so I understand where you're at. But when you really do meet someone who feels the same way and there's no bull****ting involved, the idea of "playing" it cool or "acting" aloof goes right out the proverbial window (did for me, anyway!)
I suppose I should clarify. He'd racked up more than $100,000 in debt and had not paid it back. Creditors called every hour on the hour. There was no attempt to mitigate, e.g., go to credit counseling or file for personal bankruptcy. AND ... he continued to rack up debt on MY cards. Not cool, when you can't pay back your own. That was the tip of the iceberg.
Well being 6 digits in debt is a lot worse than having a credit score in the 6 digits
Eharmony probably works well if you live in a city, but here in Wyoming it is worthless. Unless you are willing to start a long-distance relationship it is a waste of time and money.
Couple things to say. On the Internet you do not know who you are communicating with. That's a given.
Once met a woman who said her Internet date showed up for dinner in a wheelchair sans legs. She pouted, "One would think he might have mentioned it to me."
On the first go, don't meet for dinner and a movie. Lots (O.K. all) of my first dates ended with my date scraping the remains of her dinner into an insulated container for her next meal. Lots of folks just want to get out for a change.
If your date says she/he hears voices, NEVER ask what the voices say.
Find out (just ask) if your date is on mood altering drugs or has ever been institutionalized.
If they are on maintenance psychotropic drugs, and especially if it has been years, ask them if they would be willing to give up their "jones." If they get defensive and angry, check for available exits.
Although once in a dark cafe, I noticed that I could see in the candle light completely around the irises of my dinner companion (a deer in the head lights), and not too politely, asked the "institutional" question. Without batting an eye (no pun there), she with a smile said, "No;" she had a face lift.
The surgeon cut her across the brow in her hairline and then pulled her face UP. It worked, she was attractive, but for her perfectly round staring eyes.
Couple things to say. On the Internet you do not know who you are communicating with. That's a given.
Once met a woman who said her Internet date showed up for dinner in a wheelchair sans legs. She pouted, "One would think he might have mentioned it to me."
On the first go, don't meet for dinner and a movie. Lots (O.K. all) of my first dates ended with my date scraping the remains of her dinner into an insulated container for her next meal. Lots of folks just want to get out for a change.
If your date says she/he hears voices, NEVER ask what the voices say.
Find out (just ask) if your date is on mood altering drugs or has ever been institutionalized.
If they are on maintenance psychotropic drugs, and especially if it has been years, ask them if they would be willing to give up their "jones." If they get defensive and angry, check for available exits.
Although once in a dark cafe, I noticed that I could see in the candle light completely around the irises of my dinner companion (a deer in the head lights), and not too politely, asked the "institutional" question. Without batting an eye (no pun there), she with a smile said, "No;" she had a face lift.
The surgeon cut her across the brow in her hairline and then pulled her face UP. It worked, she was attractive, but for her perfectly round staring eyes.
I'm not sure whether to laugh hysterically or shudder in terror. Either you must have terrible luck or choose all the strange types. I can't say I judge you for that because I tend to be attracted to the strange types too. My brain wants to sabotage me.
Also to anyone else reading this it's not as silly as it sounds. I'll give you a quick example that's not directly related to online dating but I think it bears telling as it does involve strangers.
A month and a half ago I was out at a young professionals bar, like most in SF. Alot of business and internet start up people. I was chatting to this one smart lady who worked at Yelp, she seemed really interesting. All was going good, but I noticed that she was slightly woozy, so I jokingly ribbed her about how many drinks she had had prior. Whereupon she smiled, leaned in and said, do you like drugs? While I was still pondering this strange question and how to answer, she said that she was on ketamine, and that I should try it sometime, it was fun. DAFUQ. And it's not like she was some kind of junkie either, she had it all together and probably made five times my income. I guess even professional white collar types got to cut loose huh?
I'm not sure whether to laugh hysterically or shudder in terror. Either you must have terrible luck or choose all the strange types. I can't say I judge you for that because I tend to be attracted to the strange types too. My brain wants to sabotage me.
Also to anyone else reading this it's not as silly as it sounds. I'll give you a quick example that's not directly related to online dating but I think it bears telling as it does involve strangers.
A month and a half ago I was out at a young professionals bar, like most in SF. Alot of business and internet start up people. I was chatting to this one smart lady who worked at Yelp, she seemed really interesting. All was going good, but I noticed that she was slightly woozy, so I jokingly ribbed her about how many drinks she had had prior. Whereupon she smiled, leaned in and said, do you like drugs? While I was still pondering this strange question and how to answer, she said that she was on ketamine, and that I should try it sometime, it was fun. DAFUQ. And it's not like she was some kind of junkie either, she had it all together and probably made five times my income. I guess even professional white collar types got to cut loose huh?
Its not who you attract, but who you are attracted to.
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