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Okay so I'm asking out this girl on a date when she gets back in town. I'm debating on whether to ask her out to lunch or dinner. Lunch might be easier since I know she's gonna be interning in DC and I'm in DC for most of winter break, whereas dinner would be tougher since she'd be back on campus. And I don't have a car which makes the logistics trickier
My friend and I were talking about this and he thinks I ought to go with the dinner date because it definitely conveys the "I'm interested in you romantically" message while a lunch date can be misconstrued to mean "you seem like a potentially good friend, let's get some food." If that makes any sense to y'all.
Thoughts?
Lunch dates. You literally can decide in an hour whether there's any chemistry.
My suggestion has always been that the first "meeting" can be one that one can easily get out of and not to costly. Lunch with the understanding one has to return to work or be somewhere works well.
One could always decide to make a call and get out of whatever if both want to spend more time together.
I'm not one to say that lunch dates aren't successful, but I can only judge from my experiences. Most of my lunch meetings were with potential clients, friends, or a girlfriend and we had already established a relationship. Otherwise, I actually preferred dinner dates.
My experience with dinner dates are that women shave for them. Women don't shave for lunch dates. I'm not saying this to be sexual either. I just believe women are far more engaged and care more about their appearance over dinner than they do lunch.
Dating in general needs two people who can be focused on getting to know each other. With a lunch time date, you're still thinking about what you started before the date and what you need to finish after the date. It sets up a poor mindset for both individuals on the date.
I've found dinner dates do clear up this confusion. He's finished with his daily routine and she's finished with hers. They've both lined up babysitters who can watch their children, if they have them, and they have set it up to pick their children up the next morning. What this scenario sets up is the ability for a date to be good or bad, yet it puts both individuals in a situation to cut the date short or continue to see where the date takes them. With a lunch date, your date will be cut short most of the time, whether it's good or bad.
Women put in the effort for dinner dates that they just don't do for lunch dates, because lunch dates are penciled in. One is typically left for romance and the other is left for friendship when dating.
My suggestion has always been that the first "meeting" can be one that one can easily get out of and not to costly. Lunch with the understanding one has to return to work or be somewhere works well.
One could always decide to make a call and get out of whatever if both want to spend more time together.
My cousin met her husband through a dating service that I think was called Just Lunch. It was designed for professional people working in the downtown of a major city. I thought that was a great strategy since everyone needs to eat lunch and the worst is if you didn't enjoy the company of the person you had lunch with. The date wasn't too long and there was no awkwardness about ending the date because it was only meant for that specific time. IIRC, he was the second lunch date she had.
I'm not one to say that lunch dates aren't successful, but I can only judge from my experiences. Most of my lunch meetings were with potential clients, friends, or a girlfriend and we had already established a relationship. Otherwise, I actually preferred dinner dates.
My experience with dinner dates are that women shave for them. Women don't shave for lunch dates. I'm not saying this to be sexual either. I just believe women are far more engaged and care more about their appearance over dinner than they do lunch.
Dating in general needs two people who can be focused on getting to know each other. With a lunch time date, you're still thinking about what you started before the date and what you need to finish after the date. It sets up a poor mindset for both individuals on the date.
I've found dinner dates do clear up this confusion. He's finished with his daily routine and she's finished with hers. They've both lined up babysitters who can watch their children, if they have them, and they have set it up to pick their children up the next morning. What this scenario sets up is the ability for a date to be good or bad, yet it puts both individuals in a situation to cut the date short or continue to see where the date takes them. With a lunch date, your date will be cut short most of the time, whether it's good or bad.
Women put in the effort for dinner dates that they just don't do for lunch dates, because lunch dates are penciled in. One is typically left for romance and the other is left for friendship when dating.
This is absolutely true.
An evening date is so much more intimate, and you're more likely to get a kiss afterwards. Nobody wants to make-out in broad daylight...
dinner date is definetly more romantic. lunch date is a little more friendly less committed. if your worried about her not thinking its a date, slip int the word date when your setting it up, that way she knows your intentions. good luck!
Neither is more romantic that the other, in my opinion, although lunch is better for a first date. Lunch entrees are less costly, and it's easier to put a time limit on a lunch date, as "insurance" against things going haywire. However, the new school of thought it to avoid all food-centric dates; stick to free or almost-free dates, like a walk in a busy park, a few hours at a small museum, mini golf, etc. If you must do food, get something small, like ice cream or tea and pastries. That is, enough to fit the definition of breaking bread together---a timeless human bonding ritual---but not a full meal, to thwart dinner schemers. I've done the latter myself, at least until I retired from dating.
It seems that you’ve known her for a while, and now, you want to let her know that you’re romantically interested in her, correct? Then, be a confident man and ask her out on a dinner date. Don’t over think it. Enjoy your time with her, and see if the spark is there.
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