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It's hard to say without knowing what "talking about their exes" means.
There's a lot of difference between:
Him: So I was thinking we could go hiking at blah blah state park. Ever been?
Her: I went there once with my ex, but we didn't go on many of the trails. I've always wanted to go back. Let's plan a trip!
and
Him: So, I saw Rush in concert...it was awesome.
Her: Oh, I love Rush! Did I mention that my ex used to be in a Rush tribute band...he was a big fan! I still have a bunch of his old Rush t-shirts. We still talk a lot...he's a really good guitarist. In fact, I'm probably gonna go to a festival of Rush tribute bands with him and a bunch of his friends and family next weekend...you don't mind, do you? I'm still really close to his family, pop over there for dinner once in a while...they were really sad when we broke up...
This^^. If it's the first, then it's nothing, pretty normal behavior. But if it's the latter, then obviously there is some unresolved issue. OP, which is it?
This^^. If it's the first, then it's nothing, pretty normal behavior. But if it's the latter, then obviously there is some unresolved issue. OP, which is it?
It's been the former thus far. Not a huge red flag, just annoying to me, since I don't have any exes
It's been the former thus far. Not a huge red flag, just annoying to me, since I don't have any exes
It shouldn't be a red flag at all. Just because you have not had any previous relationships, you can't expect others to purge all of theirs from memory and never mention them. That's absurd.
Honestly, I'd find it to be FAR MORE of a red flag if somebody I was dating had been in previous relationships of a more than casual nature and they NEVER EVER CAME UP.
Yeah, but even if it's unreasonable, we can't change it. If someone I dated kept mentioning an ex, it would constantly bother me and I would not be able to just let it go.
But, yeah, I'm sensitive and I have learned to be unapologetic for it. I just try to move on . . . when I can.
If I just started dating a girl I would want to do what I could to avoid talking about an ex. I might tell a story in which one of them in involved somehow, but I would try not to talk about her at length.
To me it comes down to "does she talk about her ex too much?" This one girl liked me enough to invite me back to her house after a "first date" and, after being intimate, she spent a lot of time complaining about two of her ex boyfriends. I felt like a therapist and that was too much for me. When she asked me about my ex, I made sure to keep it short and sweet because, well, I was trying to get past her.
Because they also like to compare between the new products and old products.
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Why Do Girls Talk about Ex-Boyfriends?
