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The problem is that if I tell her the truth she'll probably burst into laughter and I'm too old to let myself be humiliated like that.
What you did was humiliating. Call her and tell her what's going on. If she gives you a second chance, that act alone says to me she's probably the woman you've been looking for.
Sorry, one more thing.......Sex is never embarrasing whether you have experience or not...it's always about what YOU want to make it.....look to it as a very wonderful, enjoyable experience, and be excited to go for it !!!
What you did was humiliating. Call her and tell her what's going on. If she gives you a second chance, that act alone says to me she's probably the woman you've been looking for.
This dates were not something I was expecting, she actually asked me out. As you can imagine, I've always been pretty set in my ways about being a virgin for the rest of my life, even though it used to bother me a lot in my 20s.
I feel very embarrassed when it comes to this issue because I feel like a 15 year old and I know I'm trouble for women because of my sexual inexperience.
This dates were not something I was expecting, she actually asked me out. As you can imagine, I've always been pretty set in my ways about being a virgin for the rest of my life, even though it used to bother me a lot in my 20s.
I feel very embarrassed when it comes to this issue because I feel like a 15 year old and I know I'm trouble for women because of my sexual inexperience.
inexperience isn't trouble. There are a million other things more troubling than inexperience in the sack.
OP go have sex with a one or two girls that you have no want-for-attachment to and just get the "heebie jeebies" about the mechanics of sex out of your system.
Telling a woman that you are a 40+ year old virgin is a bit scary from a woman's viewpoint. It means that you have not been able to make a "connection" with anyone from your teens years on.
This dates were not something I was expecting, she actually asked me out. As you can imagine, I've always been pretty set in my ways about being a virgin for the rest of my life, even though it used to bother me a lot in my 20s.
I feel very embarrassed when it comes to this issue because I feel like a 15 year old and I know I'm trouble for women because of my sexual inexperience.
You turned down sex with a beautiful woman who came on to you? Jason I want to call you a dumbo. Do you know how many guys would do what you did? Good guess....zero. Most of us here believe you did what you did out of fear of that "first time". Most of us felt what you felt when we were 15 or 17 or 20 or whatever. But most of us winged it whether it be because of raging teenage hormones or peer pressure but we jumped in anyway. Usually this "first time" was awkward and one sided favoring the guy. What do we know about mutual satisfaction when we are 20?
I just wanted to say that.......I'm with the others in their advice. At an older age, being very honest about your situation is the best medicine and it might just work in your favor if she is a decent and understanding lady. Who knows.....she might just develop a whole new respect for you thereby making your future together as awesome as can be. What I mean is it takes a REAL man to admit your situation to a lady you just meet.
This could be a blessing in disguise so go for it. But wait a day or 2 till her hurt fades a bit before going for it.
OP go have sex with a one or two girls that you have no want-for-attachment to and just get the "heebie jeebies" about the mechanics of sex out of your system.
He's a 41-year-old virgin. How the hell is he going to do that? Do you have any idea how ludicrous this whole thing sounds?
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Telling a woman that you are a 40+ year old virgin is a bit scary from a woman's viewpoint. It means that you have not been able to make a "connection" with anyone from your teens years on.
Yup. So how's he gonna have sex with one or two girls? Jeesh.....
He's a 41-year-old virgin. How the hell is he going to do that?
Prostitution is legal in some places. As extreme as the case is, I'd consider it if I were him. Heck, I'd go to a foreign country need be!
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