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In what kind of mindset do you get into to just go up to random women and start talking to them? I am always screwing this up by not doing anything. I catch women looking at me and smiling but I sometimes get intimidated to go up to them.
Empathy, man! Don't you see that your nervousness is making them nervous too? Lemme ask you this, how are you with striking up a conversation with guys you don't know?
Empathy, man! Don't you see that your nervousness is making them nervous too? Lemme ask you this, how are you with striking up a conversation with guys you don't know?
I don't really talk to any stranger if they don't talk to me first. You see I am a shy person when it comes to taking the first step but after that, I am an extrovert.
Well, it's been a long time since I was a bachelor, but I was the type to just go up and talk to women I didn't know. I don't know what you mean by "mindset" exactly, but for myself, I never had to ramp up to do it. I just went up and started talking to them. I looked at it like this: I had nothing to lose. What's the worst that can happen if you misread their smile or whatever vibe you are cueing off of?
Either you are going to meet a new friend, maybe get a chance to talk again on the phone or something, get a date or she will let you know she's not interested. In any of those cases, you have lost nothing.
I don't really talk to any stranger if they don't talk to me first. You see I am a shy person when it comes to taking the first step but after that, I am an extrovert.
Ok, that's fair. But try a little empathy. It might surprise you to know that we are all shy to one extent or another. Rejection, whether from a woman you are attracted to or just a guy sitting next to you at a diner that you're trying to kill a little boredom with is never any fun. Anytime you feel fear ask yourself this: What's the worst that can happen if? If she rejects me, if she turns away without a word? Truthfully, man, take a chance. What is the worst that can happen, you'll get your feelings hurt? And so what?! After a while, after a few Hail Mary attempts it won't hurt anymore, you'll laugh about it, it will become a game to you. What does it really matter in the long haul anyway, in the scheme of your life? Not much.
In what kind of mindset do you get into to just go up to random women and start talking to them?
if i'm feeling a good vibe, or if i have something to say, then i'll talk to strangers. i won't force it if i'm in a bad mood, or if i'm struggling to think of something to say.
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