Are Bachelors Smarter Than Married Men? (wives, how to, marriage, women)
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Is it wiser to be married or is it preferable to remain a bachelor? Are bachelors in fact smarter than married men?
Dr. Laurence J. Peter authored several books, and to him is attributed the remarkable Peter Principle. Among Peter's many insights are the following:
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In a society based on marriage, why do so many men remain bachelors?
It is easy to find a girl and to fall in love when a man is young. The urge is strong, the sap is high, and the powers of selectivity are undeveloped.
“The girl who is easy to get may be hard to take.” – F. Wisely
There are some men who do not fall in love and some who keep falling in love but do not marry. As a man matures sooner or later he reaches the age of discretion. The blood ceases to boil and reason takes over. Instead of rushing into marriage he considers the evidence for or against. After a man reaches a certain age, marriage decreases in value. The urgent appetite for sex decreases. He is now experienced at satisfying his needs without benefit of marriage. He still wants sex, but the price he is willing to pay has slumped.
A bachelor does not grow lonelier as the years pass by. He learns how to live with himself. He satisfies his unique social needs. His companions may consist of members of his own sex or of the opposite sex or any combination of the above. He may dream of the exceptional girl who could excite him to the point where he would give up all this, but while his standards are going up, the quality of what he can get is going down. The available choice of desirable prospective wives gets smaller day by day. As his competence in making a rational selection increases, the desirable selectees decrease.
To estimate his chances of success he looks at his married pals. Most are stalking girls at the office or sneaking off with others’ wives. He concludes that if married men have mistresses or look for sex and love outside of marriage he would not improve his situation by wedlock. A bachelor is a man who looks before he leaps – and then does not leap.
“Bachelors know more about women than married men; if they didn’t, they’d be married, too.” – H.L. Mencken
Do you agree with Peter’s analysis?
Is there a corollary for bachelorettes?
Since the time that Peter wrote this (almost 40 years ago), have any factors changed which would alter the validity of his analysis?
Is Peter’s paradigm equally applicable across the entire range of sociological and anthropological stratifications?
I wouldn't say bachelor's/married mean are "smarter". That doesn't make any sense whatsoever.
I've seen bachelor's grow old alone and die alone - and many who are perfectly happy being single and/or married.
Einstein was still a freakin' genius and he was married several times. Bill Gates... married... maybe he lost a few brain cells when he tied the knot... Claude Monet - married... no wonder his painting were so terrible... Steve Hawkins... MARRIED. Hmmm, he needs to cut his ties with the wife - she must be holding him down...
my general feeling is that one marries because they enjoy having a partner. often people who lose a spouse often get married again. they are relationship-kind-of people.
Somewhere in the middle are the men that don't easily fall in love or indiscriminately have sex with any willing female, yet aren't too wary to never marry. Those I believe are the smartest men as they do marry (and live longer than the permanent bachelors) but by being selective, they end up with a better wife and life partner than the men that had to marry the first girl they knocked up.
I believe that the older the couple is when they marry, the higher their education level and income bracket... thus leading to a higher quality of life.
I think all of this is just nonsense, nonsense I tell you. I plan to marry later this year, and I think that I'm a pretty fart smeller, .......er, I mean, a pretty smart feller!!
Since the time that Peter wrote this (almost 40 years ago), have any factors changed which would alter the validity of his analysis?
How valid is his analysis? In order to have a valid analysis Peter would have to have included solid data in order to convince me that the argument/analysis is valid. Statements like, "Most are stalking girls at the office or sneaking off with others’ wives. He concludes that if married men have mistresses or look for sex and love outside of marriage he would not improve his situation by wedlock," are merely opinions until he presents accurate data.
Peter's analysis of bachelorhood in my opinion, is only his opinion. I think there are tons of married men who would probably disagree with him.
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I just didn't have on my thinking cap one day!!! 
