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I'm in my first LTR. He's introverted and generally uncomfortable 'saying' things that are emotional in any way. I get virtually no compliments (except actually during sex). Sometimes I get "you looked nice today", but very rarely. This has got me feeling very insecure. I know he loves me but I have to keep repeating that to myself because he offers me zero reassurance. We've talked about it, but no change. Am I being needy?
I have nothing to compare this to, so I was wondering, do many men feel uncomfortable saying nice things? How often do other men feel the urge to compliment? How personal do these compliments get (ex 'you're hot' versus 'I love the way yours eyes light up when...')?
A question to other women: in my situation, would you feel insecure? I'm generally fairly confident but lately I feel like a wreck.
Mostlyharmless, generally, in my past relationships I've gotten lots of personal compliments, but in my marriage I really don't, and yes, for a long time it made me feel insecure, but not any more.
Mostlyharmless, generally, in my past relationships I've gotten lots of personal compliments, but in my marriage I really don't, and yes, for a long time it made me feel insecure, but not any more.
That's good to hear! Our relationship is really solid otherwise, but this has really been getting to me. I hope I get over it too!
Well, you asked how we feel and I answered for myself. I don't think I told YOU to dump him.
That's fair! I really appreciate the feedback. At least knowing that other women would react strongly too makes me feel less like I'm just being too needy.
Ok...so you are just talking out loud. I'll do the same...my feet stink...
And my HMO is finally going to let me see Dr. Pepper. w00t
I'm sorry if there has been some confusion. I wanted to know if his behavior is highly unusual and if I'm over-reacting, as well as some suggestions as how to fix the issue in the relationship. I'm not considering leaving him and I never said that I was considering that...
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