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They're either dating someone who has a stable job with not much income, or they're about the same caliber as those who don't bother to get/keep a job or any money. And don't act like those women in the latter group wouldn't date a rich guy in a heartbeat.
They're either dating someone who has a stable job with not much income, or they're about the same caliber as those who don't bother to get/keep a job or any money. And don't act like those women in the latter group wouldn't date a rich guy in a heartbeat.
There's no such thing as a stable job or financial security. I'm guessing you haven't figured that out yet?
mostlyharmless - I'm curious to learn why do you feel so strongly that he really loves you despite his inability to express it to you?
Would you care to elaborate on that, please? Because on one hand you're telling us that you know that he really, really loves you and then in the next sentence you tell us that you feel insecure about it. Which is it?
All the time. At least daily. Most of my compliments are physical because I'm a lot more comfortable with sex than I am with emotions, but I do congratulate him on his accomplishments and tell him that I appreciate him fairly often, too.
It sounds to me like you're meeting all of his physical and emotional needs but he is not reciprocating.
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My husband was like this, rarely gave compliments. It was so rare that when he did do it, I knew it was sincere and appreciated it. I have a hard time giving compliments too so I understood his not being able to do it well. It never really bothered me because I got compliments from other men a lot. Come-ons? [shrug] Maybe, who cares. I didn't take them that seriously anyway but they were always appreciated.
I'm in my first LTR. He's introverted and generally uncomfortable 'saying' things that are emotional in any way. I get virtually no compliments (except actually during sex). Sometimes I get "you looked nice today", but very rarely. This has got me feeling very insecure. I know he loves me but I have to keep repeating that to myself because he offers me zero reassurance. We've talked about it, but no change. Am I being needy?
I have nothing to compare this to, so I was wondering, do many men feel uncomfortable saying nice things? How often do other men feel the urge to compliment? How personal do these compliments get (ex 'you're hot' versus 'I love the way yours eyes light up when...')?
A question to other women: in my situation, would you feel insecure? I'm generally fairly confident but lately I feel like a wreck.
I don't think it's intentional. When you are introverted, you learn to live without compliments or attention from others yourself. So I don't think he even recognizes other people's need for verbal reassurance. It's nothing personal. At least, that is my guess.
Introverts tend to be emotionally self-sufficient and can be genuinely perplexed why others need more compliments than they do. I was an introvert when younger and I noticed the extroverts I am around now seem to rely on compliments more than I ever did. I am genuinely perplexed by it. I notice that my female friends seem to get cranky when I haven't given them positive compliments or attention for a awhile but I can't say for sure if it's related.
But I still genuinely like them whether or not I give them compliments or not.
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