Give me advice. How do I stay from being sprung or whipped when I get in a relationship?

[andreaspercheron]

If you choose your mate correctly you don't need to worry about such things... so the onus is on you to make good decisions but it's a bad attitude to have going into new relationships with your guard up thinking you're not going to become those things you mentioned. when you meet the right person those things won't even cross your mind.

[boodhabunny]

It seems to me that that the "whipped" men are always the ones in happy relationships. It's their friends (who are single or in bad relationships) who will tease him about being "whipped". Just an observation of mine.

[Shysister]

Originally Posted by boodhabunny

It seems to me that that the "whipped" men are always the ones in happy relationships. It's their friends (who are single or in bad relationships) who will tease him about being "whipped". Just an observation of mine.

Yes! That was a major problem when I was with my ex. None of his friends were in relationships and they always kept unnecessary drama happening that would result to me not wanting them around. When my ex would back off from them, they would do and say things to make him feel guilty for paying attention to my wants and needs and not being a "bros before H.." type. After awhile it just begun to be too much because his friends didn't know what the responsibilities are when you're in a relationship nor did they care because they weren't interested in having relationships.

Sometimes people really underestimate the power friends tend to have on relationships. After that experience, I made sure to not get involved with a man who allowed his friends to influence his thoughts and decisions and I'm also respectful of the friends/company I keep as well. You can still have friends while in a relationship, I don't know why some people get the notion that you have to choose, however there needs to be boundaries placed on both sides but like minded people will tend to favor and support your actions verses the opposite.