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You should, of course, ask the parents of this child to pay for the damage. And, of course, you could not invite her over (if your partner is ok with that). If you are going to have her around, you might want to make sure that expensive things that can be damaged are inaccessible.
I disagree for I was stupid enough to let her in my house knowing that something bad was going to happen. My partner really pushed me to give in because she is a family oriented person. I'm sorry I can't just move a half-ton pool table on a whim. When I did suggest that they pay for it. The dad just laughed and walked out. He's lucky I haven't seen him since. I would love to ban children entirely from my home but my partner won't go along with it. She just invites them over while I'm not there. This happened too long ago to try to get any kind of payment for it anyway.
Hear hear! My partner's little niece came over to our house and she tore the felt on my pool table. I was so angry. I had to spend $1700 replacing the felt the next week. It's OK because she said she was sorry.
Of course its "ok", it was an accident. Not like the child should be beaten for an accident right?
That being said a responsible parent takes responsibility for their child's actions and should pay to fix your pool table. Its no different than if an adult friend damaged something in your home.
You should, of course, ask the parents of this child to pay for the damage. And, of course, you could not invite her over (if your partner is ok with that). If you are going to have her around, you might want to make sure that expensive things that can be damaged are inaccessible.
I disagree for I was stupid enough to let her in my house knowing that something bad was going to happen. My partner really pushed me to give in because she is a family oriented person. I'm sorry I can't just move a half-ton pool table on a whim. When I did suggest that they pay for it. The dad just laughed and walked out. He's lucky I haven't seen him since. I would love to ban children entirely from my home but my partner won't go along with it (she thinks it's wrong). She just invites them over while I'm not there. This happened too long ago to try to get any kind of payment for it anyway.
Sanity besides life appears much easier. I wouldn't suggest anyone have children until they have all their ends tied. Mid thirties should be the minimum age to reproduce.
You do not have to invite people with children into your home, of course. That's your choice. If you invite them, though, then you have to adjust your behavior to them. They are the guests in your home and as a host, you accommodate your guests. While pounding his truck on any table is not great, toddlers *will* pound things.
Now, if the child does break something expensive (or not), as a parent, I would expect to pay for it.
Do you remember what you were like as a toddler? Maybe you can ask your parents if you liked to pretend to hammer toys, etc.
Thank you. And I don't.
To digress:
Quote:"If you invite them, though, then you have to adjust your behavior to them." I see. So it is ok to put your feet up on coffee tables (this is not limited to children, as my SIL does it) , run as fast as you can around the swimming pool and hopefully not trip and break your skull on the patio, or torture the dog, or any other inappropriate behavior in someone else's household. A guest is expected to follow the rules of the household visited, and it is not open season to act in any manner chosen.
(As another aside, nice attempt at a diversionary tactic, however transparent, to ask about my childhood, as it is neither relevant here, nor is yours, to a thread titled 'Valid reasons for not wanting children').
Back to the regularly scheduled topic (though as another poster stated, this thread has long since run its course).
Thank you. And I don't.
To digress:
Quote:"If you invite them, though, then you have to adjust your behavior to them." I see. So it is ok to put your feet up on coffee tables (this is not limited to children, as my SIL does it) , run as fast as you can around the swimming pool and hopefully not trip and break your skull on the patio, or torture the dog, or any other inappropriate behavior in someone else's household. A guest is expected to follow the rules of the household visited, and it is not open season to act in any manner chosen.
(As another aside, nice attempt at a diversionary tactic, however transparent, to ask about my childhood, as it is neither relevant here, nor is yours, to a thread titled 'Valid reasons for not wanting children').
Back to the regularly scheduled topic (though as another poster stated, this thread has long since run its course).
I've always believed that a gracious host or hostess accommodates their guests. Now, if the guests are boorish, then you don't have to invite them back, but if you invite them, then you treat them as guests.
As for the asking about your childhood, I seriously wonder whether or not any of the people posting who are non-parents actually remember what they did as children. It's relevant because posting as if children were supposed to behave in all times and places is just closing your eyes to what children are like.
I already answered the original question, btw. If you don't want children, that is a sufficient reason for not having them. No one should have to justify that choice.
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Your life, your choice. That would never have worked in my extended family because there was always someone with a small child, and with us, family togetherness comes first.
Got that beat too. I have no siblings and I'm not close to my extended family.
What are "valid" (even though validity is subjective) reasons for not wanting children?
I will admit that I detest children. Frankly, anybody under the mid-20s I seem to hold an innate dislike towards. I feel for this reason, I'm scared I may even abuse any children I ever have. So for this reason, I don't want any children.
Your reasons are certainly valid all by themselves if you detest children. I don't think people that decide they don't want children need to explain to others why they have made this decision. My sister chose to never have children because she is not that thrilled with kids, wanted her freedom to live her life and travel, and never was the motherly type. If someone feels that strongly that they do not want to have children, they certainly shouldn't. That's enough validity for me!
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