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Two of my daughters old friends have done this in the past few months. My daughter is not close friends w/ these girls anymore after some really bad problems last year. She pretty much avoids the group but smiles and says hi when she sees them. We told her to be nice and not ugly. So one of them pierces her belly button and this one I swear her mom probably helped her. They probably did it together. At first we told our daughter it may not be true and could just be something she is saying she did to be "cool" as not many at school like the girls in this group because of their actions and the "drama" they try to cause. I've been at the school and overheard kids talking about it and they HAVE seen it so she did do it. Now another girl in this group has done the same thing supposedly. She told another girl that is not a super close friend that told others. The girl said she has to hide it from her mom (no duh). After the issues last year with this group and I let all of the parents involved know what happened at OUR HOUSE the only one that talks to us is the 2nd girl. I know if my daughter did it I would want to know. Would you? Should I call her and let her know?
If I DID call her this is how I'd start the conversation:
I don't know if you know this already but I did want to make you aware of it. It may not be true at all but if it were me I'd want to know. my daughter heard that your daughter has pierced her belly button. She hasn't seen it and doesn't know anyone that has. We do know that her friend "x" has also done it.
Now, this 2nd girl (the one w/ the mom I would call) was up at the school recently talking to a teacher in one of the honors classes her daughter was kicked out of along w/ a few other kids because of their attitudes. My daughter did see her and heard her say to the teacher, "I don't know why she is acting like this". Well, we DO know why and it is the group of kids she is hanging around. We saw it last year coming before our daughter did. It took my daughter experiencing the really bad s$!@ to realize they were not "true friends".
I don't think I would say anything. If she doesn't know, I'm sure she'll see it sooner or later. Probably sooner if it gets infected...OUCH!
That is what I told my daughter. There is a REASON you need a parents permission to have ANY piercing done. If not done right and taken care of at the earlist sight of ANY infection things could get bad. I'd SCREAM so loud that I'd wake up the entire neighborhood if I did that to myself.
I'd stay out of it. Personally I would want to know - but I wouldn't tell anyone else. It's not something I'd be okay with if it were my child - but it's not sex, drugs or alcohol. So - I'd use the same line I give my kids - no tattling unless someone is going to get hurt or something is getting destroyed.
Some of the kids in my daughter's 8 grade have tatoos - yuck!!!!
It's not your kid, you don't know whether or not she's done it or whether her parents already know. Stay out of it, not your business, unless of course you want to make your daughter into a social pariah as the kid with the meddling parent.
Think y'all are all right. I had not even thought of telling her until yesterday for some reason it just crossed my mind and I first heard about it last week. I figure the way these kids all talk and are always taking pics of themselves and such it won't take mom long to find out. If the girl is going around telling people she is not even close friends with it won't take long.
As for the "sex" part.............. these kids all did have a myspace. They probably still do. I always monitored my daughters and checked EVERYTHING out (she doesn't have one now). I knew by what the other girls were saying and the pics they were posting that their parents were NOT watching them on the computer at all or monitoring ANYTHING they did. The pictures were BAD!!! I'm talking close to being child porn. It really was sad to see them behave in such a way being that they had all been friends for sooooo long. That and still being "little girls". These kids nowadays think it is okay to do this stuff. I don't get it Just last week a 14 yo boy in another area here was ARRESTED and charged with possession of CHILD PORN because a 14 you girl at his school took a nude pic of herself and sent it out. Even though HE did not take the pic it was on his phone and that was reason enough. WHAT IS INTO THESE KIDS NOWDAYS!?!?!?!?!
It's not your kid, you don't know whether or not she's done it or whether her parents already know. Stay out of it, not your business, unless of course you want to make your daughter into a social pariah as the kid with the meddling parent.
Sadly though, it's true. If the daughter's friends found out that the daughter talked to her mom about it and then the mom ratted the other girl out...sorry, but the OP's kid would suffer socially from that, I guarantee it. Remember, these are teenagers, not humans.
Let's see. Do the words, "Over my dead body" have any meaning?
As I tell my children, when she is clutching a college degree and is earning her own living, she can do anything she wants to with her body. But, until then, it's my duty to prevent her from doing stupid things, including getting a tattoo.
And, as a parent, I would want to know if my daughter had done this, just the same as if my daughter was out drinking. Being a parent is hard enough. We all have to stick together.
Sadly though, it's true. If the daughter's friends found out that the daughter talked to her mom about it and then the mom ratted the other girl out...sorry, but the OP's kid would suffer socially from that, I guarantee it. Remember, these are teenagers, not humans.
We already faced that issue last year. One of the girls in this "pack" told my daughter that she tells her mom (me) to much. LOL!!!! Yet my daughter STILL talks to me and has made MUCH better friends since. She finally realized this group is NOT the kind of friends one wants to be associated with. This "pack" of 4 girls has already turned off everyone in the entire school. Everyone pretty much avoids them. But yes, if a parent DOES stand up and "outs" someone that is doing something wrong the kid of the parent CAN suffer the consequences. Just depends on what it is and how well each of the kids are precieved by others.
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It really was sad to see them behave in such a way being that they had all been friends for sooooo long. That and still being "little girls". These kids nowadays think it is okay to do this stuff. I don't get it 
Just last week a 14 yo boy in another area here was ARRESTED and charged with possession of CHILD PORN because a 14 you girl at his school took a nude pic of herself and sent it out. Even though HE did not take the pic it was on his phone and that was reason enough. WHAT IS INTO THESE KIDS NOWDAYS!?!?!?!?!
