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If my parents had barged in on me like some of you are suggesting, I'd spend the first 5-7 years of my adult life refusing to ever visit them again. That is just not cool and shows an extreme lack of respect. YMMV.
I agree with this. These suggestions are going to make a very awkward situation for everybody. All based on a "hunch" at that.
Catch them first, innocently, before you start asking if your step children are banging. I'd be offended and slightly violated if my parents came at me like that.
Am I the only one here that doesn't care one way or the other if the OP's step-kids are having sex?
It would depend. Sex, with proper protection, and proper birth control, is one thing. But I'd be very upset if I had kids who had kids before they were able to take full responsibility. At the very least you should finish high school, be making more than the poverty level income for a family of 3, and be in a stable relationship before having kids. Otherwise you are simply signing your parents up for a massive obligation they never agreed to, and this is wrong at every level of discussion.
It would depend. Sex, with proper protection, and proper birth control, is one thing. But I'd be very upset if I had kids who had kids before they were able to take full responsibility. At the very least you should finish high school, be making more than the poverty level income for a family of 3, and be in a stable relationship before having kids. Otherwise you are simply signing your parents up for a massive obligation they never agreed to, and this is wrong at every level of discussion.
I agree. There comes a point where prohibition simply doesn't work and where education on the dangers of unprotected sex is likely to be more effective both in terms of its practical effect and in promoting a dialogue with the young people
I had a roommate many years ago that used to sleep with his stepsister. I always found it odd, but they didn't grow up together. Their parents got together when he was already out of the house and she was in HS. He said they didn't hook up until they were both in their 20's and out of the house.
I also knew a guy who's dad ended up marrying his wife's mom, which technically made his wife a stepsister.
They're not biologically related, and are old enough. Even if stuff is going on, I don't really see the problem. If they are doing it then the most important thing is to find out if they're doing it safely.
It would depend. Sex, with proper protection, and proper birth control, is one thing. But I'd be very upset if I had kids who had kids before they were able to take full responsibility. At the very least you should finish high school, be making more than the poverty level income for a family of 3, and be in a stable relationship before having kids. Otherwise you are simply signing your parents up for a massive obligation they never agreed to, and this is wrong at every level of discussion.
I see your point but whenever parents choose to have kids, aren't they also signing those kids up for a massive obligation that they never agreed to called life?
If they are having sex, there is really nothing the OP can do about it. Even if the OP and her husband figure out a way to keep them from doing it in the house which is impossible they will still find a way if they want to bad enough. They are 16 and 17 they were not raised together and have no sibling relationship. Some of the posters on this thread are extremely naive if they really think that they are aware of everything that their children are doing. Get her on birth control, stress discretion, respect and responsibility and hope it runs its course fast. The more you forbid it the more attractive the whole thing will be to them.
You need to be a better sleuth. I make no apologies for being one step ahead of my kids when they were
teens and they gave me reason to think I needed more info. I snooped, got my info on exactly what was going on , and addressed in in time to prevent things from getting dangerous for them.
Texts records, phone trackers, computer histories, knowing what the hell is going on under your own roof.
Step up your game to protect your kids !!!
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