Step mother offered to pay for my step daughter to have a tattoo for 18th bday! (legal, teenagers)
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Hell why don't we also buy her a carton of smokes and drop her off at the Armed forces recruiting office and adult novelty stores?!?! She's 18. Let's just make sure she gets the full experience right away.
Note: She will be 18 in November halfway through her senior year in high school.
Ok. so YOU don't like it.
Does your daughter, er, step-daughter, want a tattoo?
Last week one of my 18-year-olds was showing me the Instagram photos of all his friends who have tattoos. They all just graduated high school. I was surprised but not shocked that 5 of them already had ink. Only one had one that was pretty poorly done.
Does your daughter, er, step-daughter, want a tattoo?
Last week one of my 18-year-olds was showing me the Instagram photos of all his friends who have tattoos. They all just graduated high school. I was surprised but not shocked that 5 of them already had ink. Only one had one that was pretty poorly done.
Good luck.
No kidding, I don't like it. Like I said, "bikers and prostitutes".
And yes she wants one.
But why should that just happen because it's what she wants...
.....while I pretty much pay for her existence? (Roof, Food, clothing, truck, gas, auto insurance, health insurance, dental, cell phone, cable, Internet, etc, etc, etc.)
Just because your kid turns 18 doesn't mean they are grown and capable of making sound life choices. I didn't suddenly become an enabler of my daughter doing stupid things that could negatively affect her entire life.
No kidding, I don't like it. Like I said, "bikers and prostitutes".
And yes she wants one.
But why should that just happen because it's what she wants...
.....while I pretty much pay for her existence? (Roof, Food, clothing, truck, gas, auto insurance, health insurance, dental, cell phone, cable, Internet, etc, etc, etc.)
Just because your kid turns 18 doesn't mean they are grown and capable of making sound life choices. I didn't suddenly become an enabler of my daughter doing stupid things that could negatively affect her entire life.
Next thing you know she will want to stop wearing dresses and start wearing PANTS!!
Seriously, this is what parents back in the 50s were complaining about. Don't you see how silly you will feel when you look back 20 yrs from now?
Instead of being absolutely against it, I would focus on encouraging her to get it someplace it won't normally show. That way, it won't negatively impact her life.
Next thing you know she will want to stop wearing dresses and start wearing PANTS!!
Seriously, this is what parents back in the 50s were complaining about. Don't you see how silly you will feel when you look back 20 yrs from now?
Instead of being absolutely against it, I would focus on encouraging her to get it someplace it won't normally show. That way, it won't negatively impact her life.
You might be surprised to know that I'm generally pretty liberal minded when it comes to clothes and things of that nature. I don't care what she wears. I don't care about a lot of things like that. Clothing fads are not permanent. Having a tattoo, especially if its visible, says something about *who you are*. That isn't this kid.
You might be surprised to know that I'm generally pretty liberal minded when it comes to clothes and things of that nature. I don't care what she wears. I don't care about a lot of things like that. Clothing fads are not permanent. Having a tattoo, especially if its visible, says something about *who you are*. That isn't this kid.
That's what I mean. Tattoos USED to say *who you are*, but they don't anymore. They are very mainstream now. Even if it is a fad, it's one that most people of her generation will have.
However, have you asked the daughter if she wants one? If she does, have a discussion about what she wants, what size and where she wants it. Discuss things like, special meaning versus trendy/fad, being able to cover it up easily if needed for future jobs, easy to see or only for her eyes and what happens if something goes wrong. (I have a friend who found out she is deathly allergic to the red ink)
Go with her to visit a reputable place and have a full consultation regarding how long it takes, how it feels, overall cost and cost to remove if needed in the future.
Then tell her you want the same one to match hers and you can get it done together and see what she does. haha
You might be surprised to know that I'm generally pretty liberal minded when it comes to clothes and things of that nature. I don't care what she wears. I don't care about a lot of things like that. Clothing fads are not permanent. Having a tattoo, especially if its visible, says something about *who you are*. That isn't this kid.
I believe you. Have you asked what tattoo and where she wants it?
Tell your step-daughter that you will match the amount that the step-mother has offered times ten and that the money goes to her new car (you keep the title). Any tattoo and you sell the car.
If you're lucky she'll get the tattoo, anyway, but it will be small and somewhere neither you nor anyone else (except her boyfriend) will see. Problem solved and you get to be the good guy. Pay her to wait until after college to get her first tattoo. That's when the urge ends.
My mom always said that people learn the most from the lessons that cost them the most. This is kind of like the opposite of that.
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