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She was pouting and sulking all yesterday. I tried initiating conversation, no such luck, I told her I was all ears if she has anything she wants to talk about, no such luck. I ended up on the phone with my mom, she just said give her space, she'll talk when she's ready. Times like these I wish there were a woman in the picture. As outlandish as this sounds, I've thought about, obviously after a few years of dating, marrying someone. I kept my dating minimum for obvious reasons. Let's say I get married, my daughter will have 1 of these 2 reactions
" Finally, yes, another woman in the picture..." or
" I think it would just be you and I? You're married and it's awful"
Regardless of your daughter's reaction, you shouldn't get married just so your 18-year-old daughter will have a woman in her life. That sounds ridiculous, not to mention a terrible thing to do to any would-be wife.
And, just so you know, having a woman around doesn't mean your daughter would never pout or be moody.
I really admire you for keeping dating to a minium to focus on your daughter. I think its safe to start dating, but not for her to have someone in her life. Because you deserve a full life. You raised your girl, now its time for you.
She has likely found her own female figures in her life. I did it growing up. I had a mom, but she wasn't someone to look up to or feel safe with.
I guess I shouldn't be surprised that she's Ms. Clean and Organized now. She's one of the very few kids I've ever heard of to pick up her toys and make her bed without being asked. I'd make breakfast or whatever and she always knew where to put the stuff back, usually I just threw it in the cabinet, but she always knew, it irritated her if it wasn't in its exact spot. She liked to ask silly questions like " Is my hair blonde? Are my eyes blue?
My daughter is young but she is like this too. She likes her things in their place, her outfits to match, her bed made. Its just "her". I wish I was like that!
Regardless of your daughter's reaction, you shouldn't get married just so your 18-year-old daughter will have a woman in her life. That sounds ridiculous, not to mention a terrible thing to do to any would-be wife.
And, just so you know, having a woman around doesn't mean your daughter would never pout or be moody.
Obviously I wouldn't just marry the first woman I see with the attitude of " BOOM, found her, that was easy, now my daughter has a motherly figure", but if, down the road I find somebody, that'd be taken into consideration, how do they get along?
She's still moody, pouty, and giving me one word answers. I don't know this girl. I'm at my limit of how patient I can be with her current behavior, only so much more " C'mon, what's bothering you?" conversations I can do. If it keeps up. I'll be entering into " fine, you wanna be bratty and pout, go do it in your room" type conversations.
Obviously I wouldn't just marry the first woman I see with the attitude of " BOOM, found her, that was easy, now my daughter has a motherly figure", but if, down the road I find somebody, that'd be taken into consideration, how do they get along?
That's really important! Totally with you on this.
She's still moody, pouty, and giving me one word answers. I don't know this girl. I'm at my limit of how patient I can be with her current behavior, only so much more " C'mon, what's bothering you?" conversations I can do. If it keeps up. I'll be entering into " fine, you wanna be bratty and pout, go do it in your room" type conversations.
Hint: teenage girls sometimes feel strong emotions they don't understand. Trying to drag it out of them wont help the situation. But if its rude or uncomfortable, its totally reasonable to ask her to go elsewhere or remove yourself.
My teen niece lived with us for highschool and I would pick her up every day. She had such a huge bad attitude every day after school. And I would try to figure out what was happening, see if I could help, etc. And then finally I couldn't take it anymore. I told her she could either be in a bad mood and walk home every day or choose to adjust her attitude and I would continue to pick her up. She chose to walk :-)
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