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Irish, I know you yearn for the good old days when you say your wife was so sweet and loving but it appears those days are gone. Regardless of how she used to be, the present reality is that she is toxic to both you and your son. You say that the only thing you're getting out of the relationship is "glimmers of hope" but I think more than likely it's simply wishful thinking on your part.
What do you plan to do other than go to counseling?
What do you plan to do other than go to counseling?
For him, get him into CC, eventually a 4 yr school, and a job. And for myself, nothing at the moment. Let me just say here that, hypothetically, we end up splitting and after all the legal stuff is through, what do I have to offer in the dating pool? Most guys my age have kids that are in early to mid grade school and I have an (almost) adult son. I doubt I'd survive in today's dating scene.
... what do I have to offer in the dating pool? Most guys my age have kids that are in early to mid grade school and I have an (almost) adult son. I doubt I'd survive in today's dating scene.
I don't think that's where your brain needs to be right now.
You would have a lot to offer after you have gotten professional help sorting through why you have allowed yourself to live like a doormat for so long.
For him, get him into CC, eventually a 4 yr school, and a job. And for myself, nothing at the moment. Let me just say here that, hypothetically, we end up splitting and after all the legal stuff is through, what do I have to offer in the dating pool? Most guys my age have kids that are in early to mid grade school and I have an (almost) adult son. I doubt I'd survive in today's dating scene.
Even though it's a nonissue for you right now, you do realize... even "old" people get together too, right? Hell, all kinds of people get together. Don't even worry about that right now. Go to counseling, get yourself sorted out. If you don't and you end up "back on the scene", you're just going to steer yourself to a carbon copy of your wife.
what do I have to offer in the dating pool? Most guys my age have kids that are in early to mid grade school and I have an (almost) adult son. I doubt I'd survive in today's dating scene.
Don't sell yourself short. And please don't let negative thoughts about dating again cloud your judgement when making tough decisions regarding your marriage. If/when the time comes that you are single again, you will sort the dating scene out and may end up being very pleasantly surprised.
In the meantime, going to counseling will help you to grow emotionally and give you clarity regarding your marriage and wife.
I kept beating a dead horse about her rant and asked her to apologize and she refused by saying she was "speaking her mind". Counseling is good
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