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First of all, stop being afraid of your wife. Put your foot down with your son (and your wife, or just ignore her). Tell him he's got some expectations and responsibilities to fulfill and to prepare for the day he's on his own. Then give him choices...college? trade school? And give a date as to when that needs to be finished. As long as he's living in your house, he has to contribute in some way (chores, rent, whatever).
And tell wifey to step aside because it's now time to make this baby into an adult. And she hasn't helped with that in the last 20 years (or however old he is).
With this kid raising business, you need to "think ahead" and start teaching them ahead of time (like age 3 or 4).
You can't wait until they are grown up, then suddenly decide to teach them how to behave.
Also BOTH parents MUST have the same rules and enforce them the same (and that is starting at an early age).
The only hope I see for the kid is getting a job and seeing for himself what the real world is like. If he does not do his work, he will be fired with a quickness! Either that or join the military.
First of all, stop being afraid of your wife. Put your foot down with your son (and your wife, or just ignore her). Tell him he's got some expectations and responsibilities to fulfill and to prepare for the day he's on his own. Then give him choices...college? trade school? And give a date as to when that needs to be finished. As long as he's living in your house, he has to contribute in some way (chores, rent, whatever).
And tell wifey to step aside because it's now time to make this baby into an adult. And she hasn't helped with that in the last 20 years (or however old he is).
Quit being afraid of your wife.
Four years in The Army sure shaped up my son. He got out, came home, get his GF pregnant (they got married and had the baby -- which is now 21), graduated with honors from UC, and now makes over $100,000/yr. (and so does his wife).
This kid needs to get up at 8 a.m. and go to CC and/or get a job (altho' -- what could he do??). Or go into the service. He needs to be home at a certain time at night. I don't know what's wrong with Mom, but I don't see a happy ending to all this unless Mom wakes up from her La La Land.
First of all, stop being afraid of your wife. Put your foot down with your son (and your wife, or just ignore her). Tell him he's got some expectations and responsibilities to fulfill and to prepare for the day he's on his own. Then give him choices...college? trade school? And give a date as to when that needs to be finished. As long as he's living in your house, he has to contribute in some way (chores, rent, whatever).
And tell wifey to step aside because it's now time to make this baby into an adult. And she hasn't helped with that in the last 20 years (or however old he is).
The potential event of me kicking him out of the house. On May 24th he will be doing 1 of 3 things: 1. Sending out job applications 2. looking at online or community colleges or 3. putting his clothes in a box and thinking about how he messed up and how much he'll miss his bed and hot meals. Obviously #3 won't happen but I do plan on being on his case about 1 and 2
Last edited by irishfan77; 05-03-2013 at 09:35 PM..
The potential event of me kicking him out of the house. On May 24th he will be doing 1 of 3 things: 1. Sending out job applications 2. looking at online or community colleges or 3. putting his clothes in a box and thinking about how he messed up and how much he'll miss his bed and hot meals. Obviously #3 won't happen but I do plan on being on his case about 1 and 2
#1 and #2 won't happen unless you actually do #3.
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