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OP you need to ignore what the person at church told you, and watch the shows yourself, make an educated decision. Tell your son you are going to watch a show with him, maybe you'll both enjoy it.
This.
It would seem the obvious answer to this question is to watch what he is watching instead of making assumptions regarding what you haven't actually seen. Your friend doesn't know what he's watching! Why panic based on what she said instead of doing the obvious - watch the cartoon!
This is my first post but I looked at this forum and it looked like a good place to get help for this.
My son is 14 and a freshman in high school and I'm really starting to get worried about the things that he's getting involved in. I've tried as hard as I can to raise him as a good Christian boy, and even paid for him to go to a private school his first few years to make sure he gets a good moral education, but I could only afford to pay for it the first couple of years because of financial problems.
Recently he started watching these cartoons on the computer that I gave him to do school work on. I think they're in Chinese or something but I was ok with it at first because there's really nothing bad about cartoons. But I talked to one of my friends at church about it and she said that a lot of kids have gotten in trouble because of these kinds of cartoons because they have a ton of sex and violence in them. I talked to my son about it and he said that they don't, but my friend said that they can be really bad.
I want to take the computer away from him but he needs it to do homework too, but I'm worried about the things he could get in to, but I don't want to lose his trust or make him angry with me or anything either. I've talked to him but he insists there's nothing wrong with them.
What should I do?
Watch some of them w/ your son. See for yourself. Maybe just pick a time out of the blue, go up to him and sit down and say...This is what I keep hearing. Show me so that I can make a decision based on my own opinions. Then, if he doesn't want to ....or you see something you can't condone....set up a parental control...Move the computer in the middle of the house, somewhere you pass by...not in a bedroom behind a closed door. You are the parent, you are in control. Good luck on this.
Agree with many other posters here. Instead of asking him, simply sit down with him while he's watching and watch with him. If it's something he wouldn't want you to know about, it's highly unlikely he'll watch it with you around. And if he seems secretive about it, then search the history on the computer and see what he's up to. But believing someone else's unfounded opinion is a lot of unneccesary worry in my opinion. Find out first if there's something to even be concerned about.
Good lord, the "porn" part of anime community is not that big so the chances of your son watching that is not big. The bigger concern is you not watching what your son is watching before you make a decision.
. I've tried as hard as I can to raise him as a good Christian boy, ............ But I talked to one of my friends at church about it and she said that a lot of kids have gotten in trouble because of these kinds of cartoons because they have a ton of sex and violence in them.
IS he a good Christian boy? If he is sit and talk with him about what he's watching and the values you have as a Christian. (Don't nag. Discuss. He's 14 and old enough to understand these things.)
And watch them yourself. Why on earth would you listen to what a friend says about them without taking a look and finding out about them? Just because she's in your church? No. Be the mom, watch a few and sit with your son and talk about what he's watching.
Some of them are extremely well done. I have adult friends who are huge fans. They aren't my cup of tea. (I prefer the classic cartoons where 3 ton safes get dropped on someone's head and he recovers in 10 seconds- talk about a miracle!) But animation is an art in itself. And not necessarily something that's going to drag your son into juvenile delinquency.
Last edited by DewDropInn; 12-07-2012 at 08:18 AM..
This is my first post but I looked at this forum and it looked like a good place to get help for this.
My son is 14 and a freshman in high school and I'm really starting to get worried about the things that he's getting involved in. I've tried as hard as I can to raise him as a good Christian boy, and even paid for him to go to a private school his first few years to make sure he gets a good moral education, but I could only afford to pay for it the first couple of years because of financial problems.
Recently he started watching these cartoons on the computer that I gave him to do school work on. I think they're in Chinese or something but I was ok with it at first because there's really nothing bad about cartoons. But I talked to one of my friends at church about it and she said that a lot of kids have gotten in trouble because of these kinds of cartoons because they have a ton of sex and violence in them. I talked to my son about it and he said that they don't, but my friend said that they can be really bad.
I want to take the computer away from him but he needs it to do homework too, but I'm worried about the things he could get in to, but I don't want to lose his trust or make him angry with me or anything either. I've talked to him but he insists there's nothing wrong with them.
What should I do?
The easiest solution to this issue is: TURN OFF THE COMPUTER or sit there with him while he is doing homework then turn it off when homework is done. You are NOT his friend you ARE his parent so parent him. If he gets angry so be it he will get over it.
The easiest solution to this issue is: TURN OFF THE COMPUTER or sit there with him while he is doing homework then turn it off when homework is done. You are NOT his friend you ARE his parent so parent him. If he gets angry so be it he will get over it.
Why turn off something you know absolutely nothing about? Just because it's on the computer?
Watch with him, discuss. If you are uncomfortable with the computer and him viewing it alone, keep it in a more "public" place in the house.
Many Christians seem to like wars, at least when the other country isn't Christian. Aren't there plenty of violent acts described in the Holy Bible?
I would be concerned if the boy had an over bearing parent too.
But still, 14 year old kids are curious. The internet has everything on it.
One excellent tool I use is Microsoft Family Safety. I use Win 7 on all of our nine computers in our house. Only my wife and I are admins. Our four kids are just users. They can't go onto a website unless I approve it.
Kids don't get in trouble because there is sex and violence on a cartoon show.
They get in trouble because parents don't put things into proper context and pay attention to them.
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