Are you a Modern Day Mommy Slave? (daycare, teaching, play)
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^^OK. Totally agree with that. I had no idea the OP didn't have a choice in the matter.
Of course she has a choice in the matter. No one can turn you into something you don't want to be. If she did not want this, she could choose to set limits and enforce them.
Of course she has a choice in the matter. No one can turn you into something you don't want to be. If she did not want this, she could choose to set limits and enforce them.
I think this is an oversimplification of the process of abuse.
I think this is an oversimplification of the process of abuse.
Please clarify what you mean by abuse in this conversation. The OP is talking about doing the lion's share of the housework with no help from the rest of her family. Surely, you don't equate that with abuse.
This is what I was responding to, Haggard. I don't typically agree with txtqueen, but what she's saying (in my POV, anyway) is that women shouldn't have to stay home and raise the children because men or society tell her she should. She's not saying women who make the choice to stay home are doing the wrong thing...just that it should be a choice.
I don't think this has anything to do with staying home or not. In many families both parents work, and the mom still does all or almost all of the housework. It might be because she feels she has to, or because that's how she was raised, or because it is quicker and easier to do it herself than to train the kids to do it, or to nag her husband to do it. I think you can be a mommy slave, or not, no matter your employment status.
I don't think this has anything to do with staying home or not. In many families both parents work, and the mom still does all or almost all of the housework. It might be because she feels she has to, or because that's how she was raised, or because it is quicker and easier to do it herself than to train the kids to do it, or to nag her husband to do it. I think you can be a mommy slave, or not, no matter your employment status.
That's definately true. I've seen many families where both work, but everything still falls to the mother.
That's definately true. I've seen many families where both work, but everything still falls to the mother.
I notice that too. Some have husbands that want to partcipate in running the household but they get belittled when they don't do it the wife's way. I wouldn't tolerate it. I can't stand people with that attitude. The chores in my house were divided up according who cares the most and who is skilled at what. I've done all the laundry in both my marriages except my ex's and current wife's work clothes.
I notice that too. Some have husbands that want to partcipate in running the household but they get belittled when they don't do it the wife's way. I wouldn't tolerate it. I can't stand people with that attitude. The chores in my house were divided up according who cares the most and who is skilled at what. I've done all the laundry in both my marriages except my ex's and current wife's work clothes.
Oh, my mother is this way. She'll follow along behind refolding towels and such...then she wonders why no one wants to help. I can remember being in my preteens and feeling so proud that I cleaned the bathroom. When I showed her the only comment she had was that the mirror was still smeary.
You know what gets me is the sad fact that if you walk into a couple's house and it's a pigsty, people will think badly of the woman.
Or if the couple mostly eats take-out, how the man's mother will be all like, "Tsk, tsk...she can't even feed him."
WTF!?!???!!!!!!!!
Or when mothers watch over the children, it's just normal, but when a father does, he's 'babysitting' Babysitting his own kid? Really?
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