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I answered yes and yes. Everything in moderation and only a slap on the behind. By and large, with some exceptions, most kids I have seen who were not spanked were royal brats.
I admire your control. I can't spank my kids because by the time I want to spank them I usually want to kill them and there's a fine line between discipline and murder.
Time outs and taking away privledges have always worked for me...but you need to be consistent and actually follow through on what you threaten to take away and stick to it for the time period you set. If not they will walk all over you!
I admire your control. I can't spank my kids because by the time I want to spank them I usually want to kill them and there's a fine line between discipline and murder.
Time outs and taking away privledges have always worked for me...but you need to be consistent and actually follow through on what you threaten to take away and stick to it for the time period you set. If not they will walk all over you!
Very good point - that of being consistent. Too often will see/hear someone tell about their kids, how they were doing this or that, and then they will admit that this time they did this, that time they disciplined 'em differently, other times not at all. Like most humans, kids really need structure, guidelines, to know where the boundaries [of right and wrong] are - meanwhile they will test those borders, intentionally or not, seeing how momma and/or poppa will react. Not by any means perfect, but always try to be firm, with love and understanding, while being as consistent as possible.
I admire your control. I can't spank my kids because by the time I want to spank them I usually want to kill them and there's a fine line between discipline and murder.
Time outs and taking away privledges have always worked for me...but you need to be consistent and actually follow through on what you threaten to take away and stick to it for the time period you set. If not they will walk all over you!
Did you ever visit Gentle Christian Mothers site? I love that one...(sorry, I just saw that you were a progressive Christian...so I thought I will suggest...)
I'm curious, do you spank your kids? Or if you don't have kids do you support spanking?
I know I was spanked. It seems everyone I know, If they were spanked they support spanking kids, and if they weren't they think it's barbaric and cruel.
So what do you think?
Barbaric and cruel is beating the crap out of a kid....not the same as spanking. I have spanked my daughter but it hasn't happened often. Kids aren't dumb...they know whether they are being disciplined or abused. Oh, and I've received 1 spanking in my whole life.
Actually, I was beaten as a kid. I had a lot of anger control problems in my younger life. I was worse with my first born, much more reasonable with my second born. I learned over time to control my temper.
That said, I don't see much wrong with calm corporal punishment, such as a few swats on the butt with a ping pong paddle or open hand. Time-outs, loss of privileges, extra chores, or loss of allowances should be the first options. If those methods work, stay with them.
To quote a local cop that had been called when my grandaughter ran away and tried to use the "they beat me" defense....he said "OBVIOUSLY not enough.....as long as they do NOT bruise you, break you or cause bleeding it's their call."
Kids have the notion nowadays that you cant do anything to them.....at least here in Nevada....they are wrong.
My mom used a wooden spoon or ruler on my bare backside when I got out of line (as well as other punishments like grounding, chores, early bedtime, etc.). I saw nothing wrong with any of it at the time and I see nothing wrong with it in retrospect. In fact I probably deserved more punishments than I actually got.
I'm pretty liberal on most things, but the anti-spanking nonsense is one area I'm definitely NOT. Parents need to be parents, not buddies. And a sore butt is not child abuse!
Spanking your children is ok , but abusing them is not , unless you just have no choice but to abuse them . What I cannot not stand is those parents who don't spank or discipline their children at all . Have you ever seen those mothers in Wal-Mart begging their kids to stop misbehaving and their kids just keep running off and doing as they please and not even listening to their mother ? That's because their mother has never spanked them for misbehavior and they think misbehaving is okay . But its not okay . Another type of parent that I hate is the parent who thinks their child is a little angel and could never do anything wrong . Those are the children who wait until their parents are not around to misbehave and then get in to all kinds of fights and do other bad things . Then when someone says what their child did while they were gone , they do not believe it and ask their child if they did this bad thing and the child just says " No mommy , I did not do that . " Then their dumb parent believes them !! This just infuriates me that a parent would believe their child before believing the adult who just witnessed the misbehavior . To me those are the children who deserve a good beating !!
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