How far after your first did you start wanting a second child?

[Northwoods Voyager]

I sometimes wish that my two sons were closer in age. There is an almost 8 year difference to the day. Had wanted another child after 3 years, but it never happened. Our 'bonus' baby came along. They are both very special and precious to us. Also somewhat different in attitudes and personality.

I do think that 3 years apart would have been the best for both of them. Have more in common and be somewhat closer. So, three years for me.

[BusySocialWorker]

We always knew we wanted another but didn't take action until about 1.5 years later - even now expecting our second (Daughter is 2) I still have a strange feeling like I am "cheating" on her - I know I do and will love our new baby just as much, but still wonder "how could I love another SOOOO much". I know it will pass, and I will love seeing our daughter be a big sister, but I sure did treasure every minute I had "alone" with her

Our honey bunny will be almost 3 when the new baby is born which I think will be great!

[treeg26]

Originally Posted by CityGirl72

If I hadn't re-married I would have only had the one child

citygirl,
I'm re-married, too. How old were your kids when you had another with your new husband? How did it work out? We're thinking about having one together. We each have 2 from our prior marriages. The oldest is in 5th, youngest in 2nd grades. We have a lot of freedom with the kids being older.

[Marlow]

Right after my daughter was born I wanted to have another baby, I think because I was so in love with her. My husband never wanted more than one child and I didn't want another one enough to argue about it then. When my daughter turned about 4 and it finally became easier to travel and do things with her, I stopped wanting to have another child because I didn't want to go back to naps and diapers. Now that she's 8, I'd have another, but I'm 45 and the risk of Downs Syndrome is very high and I really don't want to take that risk. I know I'd love any child, regardless of disability, but it's a daunting prospect when your chances are so high. So, I'm 99.9% sure we're a one-child family.