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I would have been happy with a “thank you” written over the endorsement on the back of the check; or an email or text even. S.O.M.E.T.H.I.N.G.
That thought would never have occurred to me, much less a college aged student who probably has little to no experience dealing with checks. You really look at your endorsed checks?
OP, I wouldn't. I'm tired of the offspring of my generation ignoring social niceties. I've received lovely notes from parents for any number of small things, and I know for a fact that their kids grew up writing thank you notes. But somewhere along the line they got the message that it was ok to forgo them. I think it's time to take a stand. My grandson is only 5, but I no longer send gifts for anything except his birthday. .
I stop for my friend's kids when they get out of high school, that is regardless of whether they send thank you notes or not. At some point, gifts should not be expected any more. I have to save money for retirement.
For those to whom "thank you's have gone by the wayside", my response has become "gifts have gone by the wayside". This has cut my gift giving by about 60%. Interestingly, those who do give thank you's are also the same who keep in touch at least somewhat in other ways. So it does seem to be dependent on whether or not there is a "relationship", as someone else said.
I've never had my nephew say thank you for a single gift I've given him, every birthday, Christmas, graduation, this has been going on for years. I have to wonder why his mom and dad have never taught him to do this and they know about all the gifts I've sent him over the years. But overall, his social skills suck. I'd never point that out to his parents, but if he were my kid I'd have some real concern about it. When he comes to our home, he sulks in a corner texting his friends and never once looks up to speak to us. He's 22 now and these are his social skills. It's sad.
I'd send something inexpensive but friendly. Say, a wedding bells ornament for their first Christmas tree. Something where you won't feel resentful about the expense, but won't seem chilly, either.
When a person I know dies and they have a charity listed in the obituary I always send a check. There has only been one time I did not receive a handwritten thank you note. Many times I did not know any of the family but they still sent a thank you. I always received the form letter from the charity and no that is not a substitute for the note.
I'd send something inexpensive but friendly. Say, a wedding bells ornament for their first Christmas tree. Something where you won't feel resentful about the expense, but won't seem chilly, either.
May I say,what a gracious style in hospitality you rendered. I like your idea! Simple,thoughtful and within a frame of still acknowledging the event.
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