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How do you deal with a bully as an adult. I have a few - step child, coworker, sibling? Other than complete avoidance, how do you keep such an individual from bullying or attempting to bully you?
Play out typical scenarios...come up with great things that will stop them in their boots...
Not below the belt stuff, bec you want to be a good example of power dealt out with grace and clarity
and temperance....
Then, practice these 'sayings' so u won't be caught 'off guard'.
When you say them, pivot and walk away...leaving them with your power lingering...
Starting could sound like..."Oh, don't you EVEN try pulling that on me...
"Oh you wish you...."
"Oh if only you knew bla bla....
Fill in the blanks...the power is in zipping it and showing them
your back as you leave.
See, being a bully...few stand up to them.
They are left with their mouth dropped.
They won't be chosing YOU to bully anymore, no sirree.
At work we find alot of little supervisors or just team leaders like to bully-- my take- I chase them. hey Larry what about this, Sue, Sue, SUE<,, I need your help,, hello can you tell me how to,,, hey Jack, need your knowledge.. they stay far away from me. and they make others cry-but honey turn it around. stay on their case. bring it ON!
Stand up to them! If you have to say, "Sorry I think you're out of line,"
"You're rude, crude and socially unacceptable."
"I don't care for your attitude and find our relationship toxic." and walk away.
Send them to me! Imma whoop that azz! But seriously as an adult you have to learn to cope.
For one your vocabulary is more developed, so use it! Curse them out! You have the skills to call law enforcement do so & above all, if you are being bullied as an adult, you probably need therapy because normal adults know how to use the resources known to them.
I wouldn't deal with them, I'd cut them out of my life by whatever means necessary. The fact that you want to deal with it makes you an easy target for bullies.
We had a bully lady at work and she would curse at you if she got mad . Well she was friends with the owner of the business and she would get a free pass because of that .I wonder when it will dawn on the owner that she is the reason he is going through receptionists like water . Well I eventually left because of her but had I known that they went through three receptionists before me I would have never taken the job .Well when I walked in there to pick up my check I let them know that not only did I get another job but the pay was three times what I was making there . Well anyways one of the girls told me she said " how did she rate that ? when I walked out and left . Well probably not cursing at my co workers and not being a biotch !!!LOL.
We had a bully lady at work and she would curse at you if she got mad . Well she was friends with the owner of the business and she would get a free pass because of that .I wonder when it will dawn on the owner that she is the reason he is going through receptionists like water . Well I eventually left because of her but had I known that they went through three receptionists before me I would have never taken the job .Well when I walked in there to pick up my check I let them know that not only did I get another job but the pay was three times what I was making there . Well anyways one of the girls told me she said " how did she rate that ? when I walked out and left . Well probably not cursing at my co workers and not being a biotch !!!LOL.
I'll never understand employers who keep unpleasant people on as employees, even knowing they cause others to quit. My son was recently in a job like that and even though it was common knowledge that certain people were nasty THEY were the ones who got the promotions while everyone else suffered or quit. I almost wonder if the bosses are bullied, or at least intimidated, by these kinds of people. Nothing about being a business owner makes you a good judge of character either.
Bullies like being predators great offense but zero defense
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