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It could be worse. They could have never came arouund ever. I'm in an interracial relationship, but my parents aren't bigots because they're an interrcial couple too, so they never told me who I should & shouldn't date.
Well, if they want to bury the hatchet & YOU WANT TO BE CLOSER TO THEM, why not! I'm not saying you have to see each other every weekend or anythng, but at least be cordial to each other. If I were you, I would express however, that they really hurt me & it didn't have teo be that way. So I wouldn't let them off the hook too fast.
It's nice that your husband has a good attitude about it. Other spouses may have said, "F--- them!" Good luck & I hope things get better!
Cutting a long story short: I'm white, and when I was eighteen and in college, I started dating a black man from my class. My parents vehemently disapproved, but we stayed together through all the stuff they threw at us. We got married when we were 24. My parents weren't present at the wedding. In fact, they weren't present for anything between I and my husband. Two years on from the wedding and I'm pregnant. We're having a baby boy and we're very much excited.
A couple of weeks ago I get a housecall from my mom and dad after the longest time ever. They heard I was pregnant and they said they had been stupid, they wanted to bury the hatchet, to leave things in the past and to move on as a family. Naturally I was shocked, and skeptical. My husband, however, comes from a strong family unit, and he's a very loving, gentle kind of man. He welcomed the idea with open arms.
Me? Not so sure. I know my parents and at times they can have a capacity for manipulation. I have heard several stories of parents who didn't approve of interracial relationships realising how stupid they've been and coming round after the grandkids are born, but it just seems too good to be true for me. My husband harbours completely different thoughts. He wants them in our lives. I'm kinda stuck in the middle. After everything that happened in the last eight years, I just find it difficult to trust them.
Are there any people out there who have been in a similar situation or have any constructive thoughts?
Thank you.
Just be thankful they came around and in a sense, repented/ sought forgiveness.
Many of those types never do come around! Or they wait until the children are grown, and/ or a divorce/sep happens.
They never intend to invest any time, love, etc.,etc. in those they have deemed 'undesirable' or inferior.
The plan is to punish/exclude the offenders and "less thans" forever and ever.
The suffering the forever excluded ones feel, in a unresolved case like yours, is immeasurable and very damaging!
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