Indiana...a depressing place to live?? (Bloomington, Terre Haute: apartment, renting, crime)

[sponger42]

Originally Posted by ChickeyDuck

Ummm, I guess that would mean I would have to leave my husband, someone I love and has a good job and move back by myself, because he's not ready to move back up north... hmmmm, what to do ~ what to do!!! PLZ ones who usually have heartless, condescending, and snotty remarks: SAVE IT!!!!!

I would like to thank those who responded to my close-minded question and shared there stories.

If you're really unhappy with where you live, you should talk to your husband about relocating and see if he'd ever be open to the idea. It's not easy to pull up stakes and move out, especially if you're established in a long-term job with the same company, but it's also not easy living somewhere you hate, and you shouldn't be forced to do that for the rest of your life, or until retirement, or whatever.

Maybe now isn't the best time for your husband to start looking for work in Indiana, but you could work out a long-term goal together to move back to Indiana when economic conditions improve or if an opportunity arises. You never know, if your husband floats his resume out to Indiana (or wherever you want to go) a few times a year, he might someday get a better offer than where he is now. Then you both could move together and be happier.

Sure, it might never happen that a good job opens up, but it definately won't happen if you don't even try.

[ChickeyDuck]

Originally Posted by sponger42

If you're really unhappy with where you live, you should talk to your husband about relocating and see if he'd ever be open to the idea. It's not easy to pull up stakes and move out, especially if you're established in a long-term job with the same company, but it's also not easy living somewhere you hate, and you shouldn't be forced to do that for the rest of your life, or until retirement, or whatever.

Maybe now isn't the best time for your husband to start looking for work in Indiana, but you could work out a long-term goal together to move back to Indiana when economic conditions improve or if an opportunity arises. You never know, if your husband floats his resume out to Indiana (or wherever you want to go) a few times a year, he might someday get a better offer than where he is now. Then you both could move together and be happier.

Sure, it might never happen that a good job opens up, but it definately won't happen if you don't even try.

Thanks sponger42 for the encouraging words

[Southside Shrek]

Anyone who is unhappy living with where they are should consider becoming a full-time RVer.

[leeleeski]

your name says it all! must be a lib...

[Toxic Toast]

Originally Posted by leeleeski

your name says it all! must be a lib...

Who are you talking to?

[sirrob]

Yea, Indiana is not for me, and DW and I will be moving back to the Atlanta area. We've been here 3 years, and I'm just not feeling it. Nothing against Indy, it's quiet, safe, people are VERY friendly, but I just don't have that emotional attachment to the city as I do with Atlanta. Hard to explain. Even Chicago, where I was born and raised, I DREAD going there today. It's just a very uncomfortable place for me to go.

In Atlanta, I love that you can be out laying on a number of different beaches of your choice by NOON, by car.

Fall is my favorite time of the year, where it could break 80 degrees, and the leaves are changing colors. BEAUTIFUL!

So, yes, it's true you control your own happiness, and like others have already said, one way to control your happiness is to move to a place where you feel joy and emotional fullness.

[INstix]

It's true...Indiana can be depressing. But I think anywhere can be depressing. I mean, it's so arbitrary, isn't it? What makes one person feel at home is totally different than what makes someone else comfortable.

For some time now I have been looking for something...maybe just looking to run away from what I've been used to? I'm not sure. Anyway, I have posted on lots of forums with the full intention of moving to about 7 different places in the last couple of years. I would make plans, investigate, even look up houses on Realtor.com. My poor husband had to listen to me rant and rave about the "latest place", because all I wanted to do was get out and live somewhere else. Everywhere else seemed better to me.

I guess it was a phase I went through or something, perhaps connected with entering the 40's decade for me. Anyway, I started looking at why in the world I thought everywhere else held the keys to happiness for me. Yes, I love to travel, and yes, there are many areas that hold a lot more enjoyment than the town where I live now. But moving was becoming an obsession for me because I just knew everything was going to be so much better at the other places I wanted to go. That is just not a healthy reason to move.

So I settled down and decided to rediscover Indiana. We're going to take small trips around the state this summer and see things-probably things I've never seen in all my life here as a hoosier. True, we are going to take a trip this fall to Salem, Mass...an area of the world I think is just fascinating, but I've told my husband the "moving crisis" is over. If we ever decide to move, it needs to be for better reasons than boredom and wanting to believe all my problems will magically resolve in a new town.

I need to be a whole person wherever I am, not be looking for someplace to make me feel whole. But I think travel is wonderful, and if a person really feels where they are isn't satisfying what they need-travel!! It's wonderful, better than drugs, and expands your learning and attitudes. As long as you don't think moving will make everything in your life better (because your problems and attitudes will follow you wherever you go) you might just find someplace that fits your style better.

[Toxic Toast]

Originally Posted by sirrob

Yea, Indiana is not for me, and DW and I will be moving back to the Atlanta area. We've been here 3 years, and I'm just not feeling it. Nothing against Indy ..... but I just don't have that emotional attachment to the city as I do with Atlanta. Hard to explain.

Anyone who has moved around should be able to relate.

[tany123]

You talking about Bluffton, Indiana?

[GraniteStater]

Well, some machinery has cleared tons of trees in the park by me in Jeffersonville with a giant bulldozer. I called the city about it. So, it has been a depressing weekend in Indiana along with all the smoke in the air!