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Old 09-11-2011, 09:53 AM
 
Location: Westbury
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not all kids are attached to the hip of their parents. girl could be sick of seeing her mother do nothing and feel good riddance when she is kicked out

you don't think the girl seeing her father (who she voiced she wanted to permanently live with) stressed out and under the financial burden of the bump on the log mother would also cause her distress?


of course talk to the girl but if she is a stable teenager they are smart enough to understand what is best for all parties involved
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Old 09-11-2011, 10:05 AM
 
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I didn't read the whole thread, but wouldn't they be considered in a Common Law marriage in Texas once they have lived together for 2+ years?
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Old 09-11-2011, 10:32 AM
 
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I didn't read the whole thread, but wouldn't they be considered in a Common Law marriage in Texas once they have lived together for 2+ years?
I believe you also have to "present yourself" as husband and wife as well.
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Old 09-11-2011, 10:47 AM
 
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I believe you also have to "present yourself" as husband and wife as well.
Ah, I see.
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Old 09-11-2011, 11:40 AM
 
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not all kids are attached to the hip of their parents. girl could be sick of seeing her mother do nothing and feel good riddance when she is kicked out

you don't think the girl seeing her father (who she voiced she wanted to permanently live with) stressed out and under the financial burden of the bump on the log mother would also cause her distress?


of course talk to the girl but if she is a stable teenager they are smart enough to understand what is best for all parties involved
I may have a little different take on it having been a foster family to 2 different teen aged girls. One had her sisters over all the time, too.
If the girl is 1/2 bright and 1/2 stable, she knows her mother better than anybody. That does not mean anybody can bad mouth the mom. That is the very last thing the kid needs. Sounds like the mom is a con artist or really depressed. None of us has any idea. When the mom can no longer get what she needs from the dad, she may very well make the daughter her next target. The kid will need to be able to withstand whatever guilt and pressure the mom tries to lay on her. The dad is having a hard time with it, the kid will need to be really strong.
I still pick door #3. Get her into her own place, whatever it is. Even if he has to borrow money from his momma. She only has clothes to move.
Call the mental health folks. There is some kind of help from the county.
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Old 09-11-2011, 11:47 AM
 
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Of course on the flip side of this, playing devil's advocate, if you lived in an alimony state and she could prove common law marriage, you might have been stuck with alimony. If the OP has a hard time just putting her on the streets, go put her in a $400 a month garage apt somewhere, move her clothes over there and pay for it for 3 months in advance and tell her it is up to her after that.

Then, um, don't let back in 3 months from now....
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Old 09-12-2011, 09:47 AM
 
Location: Pearland, TX
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I believe you also have to "present yourself" as husband and wife as well.
Exactly. Which includes co-mingling funds.
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Old 09-12-2011, 10:04 AM
 
Location: The Greater Houston Metro Area
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Exactly. Which includes co-mingling funds.
In this case, I don't think the other side ever had any funds to co-mingle, by the sounds of it.
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Old 09-12-2011, 10:23 AM
 
Location: Pearland, TX
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In this case, I don't think the other side ever had any funds to co-mingle, by the sounds of it.
Joint checking would do it. Prima facia.
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Old 09-12-2011, 04:34 PM
 
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I also think the simple route is the best. As for the daughter, I think it would be an excellent lesson for her if its explained properly:

"Honey, when someone is productive and works hard, they are able to live in a nice place and can afford nice things. Unfortunately, if they think that the world owes them a living, life can be very hard.

Your mother is unfortunately having to learn this lesson now."

My advice - pack her up, be generous and give her $100.00 cash and kick her to the curb.

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