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it's great until you keep getting older everyday and all your friends are falling in love and getting married and having kids and you aren't...b/c you will never amount to anything except a pretty face.
Trust me, it's terrible. Definitely not cool in the slightest.
Clearly the beauties that are having difficulty finding a man are missing something. Looks will only get you so far, after that you better have some substance.
Most of the woman that look really good seem to carry themselves with supreme confidence. I think there is a link between extreme confidence and happiness.
Clearly the beauties that are having difficulty finding a man are missing something. Looks will only get you so far, after that you better have some substance.
I believe I did say in a previous post that I do have substance. No, not all pretty women are ditzes. Wow, I'm actually smart...who knew?
I think many women who refer to themselves as stunningly beautiful, gorgeous, etc. are not as confident as they like to pretend. The fact that they seem to need to continually mention that they are (or think they are) so much more attractive than other women points to a lack of confidence and a cry for attention. And whining that it's soooo hard to be beautiful? Give me break. I know a lot of confident women, some are beautiful, some are just average looking. But they all have confidence because they believe in their abilities and don't back down from a challenge. Truly confident women don't define themselves by, or limit themselves because of, their looks. And, that makes all of them beautiful.
it's great until you keep getting older everyday and all your friends are falling in love and getting married and having kids and you aren't...b/c you will never amount to anything except a pretty face.
Trust me, it's terrible. Definitely not cool in the slightest.
Oh no. Not my point at all. Because I've known women like that who have very normal lives. Active in their church. Loving husband. Kids. But they just don't know the affect they have on men. Because they have so much else going on in their lives. They aren't checking their reflection in windows every 10 minutes. They're just naturally lovely. My grandmother used to call it "good bone structure".
My best friend is one. Hawaiian and gorgeous. She thinks I'M the pretty one because I'm a blue eyed blonde. For thirty years I've watched the effect she has on men. I'm wholesome. She's exotic. And she doesn't have a clue, bless her heart. (BTW she's been married for 20 years and has three kids. She's still knockin' 'em dead. And she has a daughter that is even more beautiful and is another one that doesn't have a clue. She worries more about her grades than her mascara. Maybe that's the secret?)
I get a kick out of it.
And she'd never post an answer in this forum because she wouldn't even put herself in the "drop dead beautiful" category. That's my point.
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I was walking down the street with a woman friend of mine and we passed one of the most beautiful and fashionable lady I had ever seen. This woman had the most beautiful hair, an incredible face, a shapely body and flawless skin. She was also incredibly fashionable and poised. My lady friend said, "I wonder what it would be like to be her?"
This made me think about the link between beauty, fashion and confidence. If my somewhat plain looking friend could wave a magic wand and all of a sudden look exactly like that beauty queen would she magically be more confident and successful? I think so, because everyone would treat her like a queen. What do you think?
What you aren't considering is what kind of effort it takes for this woman to maintain her outside beauty. How often does she excercise, does she have to maintain a meticulous diet. How long does it take for her to get ready in the morning (hair and makeup can take forever)? Could she be in debt since she dresses in the latest fashion?
Just because she is beautiful and appears to be confident does not mean that she is a happy person. Of course she could be, but you don't know. I think people shouldn't assume things about a person because of their appearance.
Maybe your plain looking friend could put more time money and effort into her appearance and she would be just as beautiful. Maybe it's not worth the effort to her to due so.
Yes, I think I would be more confident if I were strikingly beautiful. Quite seriously, no, beauty does not necessarily equate with happiness and yes, being that beautiful probably does have some inherent problems of its own. However, ...I think I would be willing to try to work with those problems/issues!
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...I think I would be willing to try to work with those problems/issues!
